Giving Thanks....

Hi Beautiful people,

It's that time of year when families come together to relax, reminisce and eat delicious food. I love Thanksgiving and Christmas Holidays. It is this time of year that brings family together when our every day lives sometimes get in the way. Thanksgiving Dinner was delicious, thanks MOM. Meeting up with the fam bam at Big Mama's house was great too (and long overdue)! Christmas breakfast will be at Nessa's house, I can't wait! I am soooo thankful to have my family, friends, co-workers and loved ones in my life! I am a firm believer that everyone comes into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It's up to you to determine their role in your life.

This year is coming to an end and I am looking forward to the New Year 2012. Change is inevitable and I am thankful that my life is evolving and has given me the opportunity to experience new things. I have big plans for 2012: My personal goals are to save to buy a home and educate myself on "eating clean" to embrace a healthier lifestyle. I am also looking forward to attending a friend's wedding in Jamaica, my family reunion in New York and a Girls Trip to Miami.

In the meantime, I continue to remain patient as I know my "soulmate" is out there  somewhere. I understand that I must be in a good space in order to make someone else happy. In the meantime, I will focus on my own personal growth and pray someone will come into my life who holds the same interests and values as myself. So until that happens...we must Keep the Party Going...LOL.

Just because my work schedule has changed does not mean I can't socialize, it just means I must be creative! The Adventures of Single and Fabulous continues...Smooches

Happy Holiday's Everyone!

All Dressed Up...and going out Solo!

A Girl's Best Friend, she greets me when I come home - Me and Bailey!

Hey Beautiful people,

I call myself trying to get out and "mix n mingle" at an after work BlacknLA event at Philippe Chow but I was slightly disappointed. I could have been impressed but there were several things wrong with this event. Where do I begin?

The venue is very nice but it was too small for the amount of people that showed up. The background music was cool. The crowd of people in attendance were cool. But we all were cramped at the bar. Of course there were no seats available and as usual more girls then guys! Sidebar- if this is an "after work mixer" why do some people have on sweats and tennis shoes, c'mon. Leave it to black folks to mess up the dress code! And whose daddy is that over there tryin to holla back, oh lord.  

Although I was discouraged, it was early so Resheda decides to look at the dinner Menu! The food did not appear to be expensive, I haven't had my dinner yet, it's Friday night, I need a Good drink and I really don't want to leave yet! As a result, I'm having dinner SOLO! What else was I suppose to do? I didn't get all doll'd up for nothing! But it is sad that I am blogging at the table waiting on my food when I should be mingling! This Word document to Go is the business, lol.

The good news - dinner: chicken and broccoli with vegetable fried rice and the free dessert: my pineapple sorbet was Delicious! The hostess and waitress took Great care of me, A+ on the customer service! But my presence there just felt "forced".

With my upcoming work schedule changing I can't say I'm going to miss events like this, Lol. But the whole experience was interesting to say the least! Have you ever gotten all dressed up only to think "this was a waste of a good outfit"...well this may be one of those nights, smdh.

In retrospect, I think I would have had a better time if "my girls" were there with me! But of course the goal is to meet a nice guy and rolling 6 six deep with a bunch of girls can be intimidating and so I'm back to square 1;)

My Adventures as Single and Fabulous appear to be Inevitable....and so the journey continues... Smooches

Everything Happens for a Reason

Hi Beautiful People,

The journey continues and as to be expected unforseen events have been happening in my life.
FYI - I'm not a fan of change and I'm use to things running smoothly. But as we all know everything happens for a reason.

As you should know, approximately a month ago I received good news that my work hours will be  changing and I am pursuing a less stressful position. My release date was scheduled for Nov. 2nd. Unfortunately, I am leaving a great group of co-workers but I must go out with a bang! So of course, I had to celebrate my departure.

But of course I find out on what I though was my "last day" that I'm not leaving and I am being held at my current job for 2 more weeks, REALLY!! These people want me to despise them. Every time I try to make moves "the man" is always trying to hold  me back! Damn!

Well the Party Must Go On (we will just have to celebrate my departure again in 2 weeks, lmao)

Friday Evening - Destination: Seven 7 Restaraunt Bar and Lounge in Downtown LA. Shout out to my twin sis for finding the spot for me :) Happy Hour from 5pm to 8pm! Great venue. The only downfall was the D.J. didn't start until 8pm (world series was on tv). But we were going to make it fun anyway. Cool spot to host your event at. Some random people came by but me and my people took over the joint! Great appetizers for $4 and "four" purple moon drinks later I was good and tipsy! I had a great time.

Thank you for all of my friends/co-workers for coming out to Celebrate my departure I am truly going to miss the comraderie in our office as I think we have the best Social Workers in LA County ;) Smooches

My only love connection right now is with my puppy Bailey!

My Stylist Tanya with Bailey!

If  a sista gets a date anytime soon I will definitley let you know. So the Adventures of Single n Fabulous continue...Smooches

Patience is a Virtue

Hi Beautiful People,

The time has come where change is inevitable…my persistence has paid off. I am going to a new position at work and with change there is sacrifice. Although I will be working nights now, I get 3 day weekends. I will be able to go to the gym, pre-cook my food and focus on getting my clinical licensing hours. Also, I can meet new people in the daytime rather than limit myself to meeting them at night. I’m actually looking forward to this change as I think this change will afford me some flexibility with my schedule and hopefully lead to less stress. So the career change looks good.

Let’s transition over to my social life…

Okay so one of my girlfriends invited me out to the Conga room last Sunday night. Hey I didn’t have any plans, so what the hell. I like the Conga room on Monday nights because of the “Live music” as this is Foxxhole night, so I thought I would give it a shot. It was pretty packed and had a pretty good turnout of supporters that night. Sadly, I did not observe any “potentials” upon my arrival. Let me clarify and give you my definition of what a “potential” is…a man you can spot out of a crowd who has his own swag, dressed nice from head to toe, crisp and clean, nice smile, not intimidated but confident in himself…and of course handsome. You know him when you see him because your eyes constantly stray back to him even within a room full of people. Now I don’t think I’m asking for much, because I know these men exist and I’ve met them in the past. Unfortunately, nothing came of these previous encounters and of course I’m still searching for “the one”. However, apparently this wasn’t my lucky night.  But I was appreciative of the men asking the ladies to dance hence I had a great time sweating my hair out ;). I met a nice guy from Chicago who told me his wife was out of town and he was out with the guys having a good time. Somehow I ended up talking to him about his marriage and recommending he and his wife seek counseling (this would happen to me). What’s his response “how can we keep in touch?” My response was “We Can’t”. I told him straight out that I am not friends with married men.Period. I explained to him that this is a “suspect” position to be in especially if I wasn’t a friend of his that met his wife prior to their marriage. I walked away from that situation quickly. Why me, LOL. Well I guess that event was something to do on a Sunday night with no work on Monday!

Transition over to Monday’s surprise…

I have a new “puppy” that I was not prepared for. I knew I wanted a dog but I did not do my usual research on what it takes to care for a puppy. I don’t know what my motivation for getting a dog…was I just set on getting my way…because the price was a good deal…am I going through a midlife crises…is this my way of substituting for not being in a committed relationship or having a child…I don’t know what the answer is but I do know that I love my Bailey! She is the cutest puppy and I am sacrificing some “good sleep” to make sure she gets what she needs. I also have the best supportive family in the world because they have pitched in to help although they did not sign up or this!! So now I am responsible for someone other than myself. I’ve made a commitment of my own. Let’s see how this works out and prepares me for my future. Thank goodness my mom is more than willing to babysit because mama still has to find Bailey a good daddy J.

Bailey's 1st Day Home

I will keep you posted on my usual Single and Fabulous Adventures…Smooches

Frustrated...

Hi Beautiful People,

Stress has gotten the best of me and has affected my ability to provide this Blog to my peers with consistency and I apologize for that. However I believe "I see a light at the end of the tunnel" (some form of relief). Please allow me to explain:

I've been frustrated recently due to several things in my life not going the way I want them to! Don't get me wrong, I know life has it's ups and downs but sometimes I wonder what is "my purpose"? I love my career in Social Work but I also believe that I have to be happy in my career choice. Therefore I have come to the realization that change is necessary.

Like anyone else, I have my own personal goals I would like to achieve and because of this unpredictable work schedule of mines I can't commit to what I want to do -one of them would be Dating!

For example, two Friday's ago I RSVPd to go to Buffalo Wild Wings in LA to participate in Mingle and Plei's Speed Dating event. I was having a great day at work when around 3:30p I get an Emergency investigation that has me working until 11:00p at night. Really? I've been at work since 8am...by this time I'm "exhausted". Sidebar - "exhausted" was the designated word I used for the month of September! Needless to say I went home and drank a glass of wine, alone.

Let's review what other personal goals I haven't been able to commit to fully: exercising consistently, eating healthy, cooking daily and of course dating. This is just sad. How am I going to be able to commit to a relationship if I can't commit to my own personal goals.

Looks like some major changes are going to have to happen. I've come to the conclusion that my job is dictating my life and this is not what I signed up for ;) The good news is, I have some things in the works and now I must put "ME" first. I know that I must be patient so I will take one day at a time.

I definitely have to keep you posted on what is soon to come! If you have any suggestions on how I can accomplish some of my personal goals with a "tricky schedule" feel free to share them with me! Much appreciated.

The Adventures continue....hopefully some excitement will happen in my life that I can share with you soon ;) Smooches

Happy Hour - NFL Football Season is here!

Hi Beautiful People,

NFL football season is finally here! This is my favorite sport. Let me just start by saying I finally picked a football team. I accidentally came across HBOs Hard Knocks football series and I fell in love with the NY Jets! Maybe because the quarterback is an alumni of USC - Mark Sanchez and he's supported by a "shit talkin" coach Rex Ryan and some brothas who can run the ball. Now don't get me wrong I'm very much aware i am rooting for the under dogs. But I think once our boys get their rhythm going we are headed to the Super Bowl. Please don't sleep on the Jets the game may start off slow but they are known to be the "comeback kids!" Now all that being said where will I watch the game?

Happy Hour locations can be tricky. One minute you have a spot to go to and the next minute you find out it's been shut down (I.e. Capitol city, I'm so hurt I didn't even get to go) What's a girl to do? If I'm suppose to be on a mission to find "my guy" I have to pick a spot that fits my personality. So far the suggestions have been Buffalo Wild Wings in Torrance, The Game Sports bar and grill in Inglewood, Pink Taco's in Century city and El Toritos in Marina del Rey. Looks like I have a few places I need to check out. However I need suggestions people!

I'm looking for a place that has friendly people, preferably a mixed crowd (i ain't trying to be at the Savoy I know them folks already), a D.J. is optional, great happy hour prices and a cool ambiance! If you know of a spot that you think Resheda would love please let me know! I will definitely give you a shout out and blog about my experience.

The Adventures must continue....we can not let all this fabulousness go to waste ;) Smooches

Like it, Love it, Live It!

Parting by the Pool - Rumor Boutique Hotel in Vegas!
Dress from Thick Chic Boutique in Inglewood

Hi Beautiful people,

Just checking in as my "Staycation" approaches an end! I have loved every minute of my "stress-free" vacation!

• I've been to the Conga Room on Monday night and enjoyed the comforts of live music!
• I've attended a couple of jazz festivals and had fun listening to more live music in the beautiful sun and relaxing in the park!
• I've laid out by the pool in Corona and Rancho Cucamonga enjoying good company with family, friends and a good drink! I've turned my cafe latte skin tone into cafe mocha, lol (at least in my mind i've gotten darker) I love getting a tan in the summer.
• I spent quality time with my twin sister, younger sister, brother-in-law and niece at the MAGIC Retail Convention Show in Las Vegas and had a great time getting out and enjoying the 102 degree weather and night life!
• The only down side to this vacation is I missed two trips to MIAMI this month. But I am definitely planning on going next year, Mandatory!
• Congratulations and Happy Birthday to my girl Tracy as she will be getting married soon and celebrated her birthday in Miami. Also, Happy Birthday to my girl Tamanika who also had a blast celebrating her birthday in Miami.
• Since I'm giving shout-outs, I can't forget about my girl Gloria (aka Doctor Hudson) for getting her doctorate degree! Of course she had to celebrate big at The Standard downtown and of course I had to be in attendance.
• Last but not Least! I LOVED the SADE Concert! She is a beautiful human being, inside and out and it reflects in her Music!

Sade Live @ Staples Center "Just Beautiful"

Notice that out of all these events I've attended I haven't mentioned any thing about meeting anyone new, WTH!!! Yep I've been out on the town and no such luck. What's a girl to do??? I'm really contemplating moving to another state. A girl friend of mine's (Sam :) stated it's really not that difficult. Finding a place to live isn't hard, it's making sure you can line up job interviews and have a savings account to keep you afloat. I mean really what's stopping me. I love my family and I was born and raised in LA (Cali girl for life), but I'm single with no kids and have met very few men who are willing to entertain the thought of dating. I need to do what's best for me and maybe start Brand New "somewhere else"! But of course everyone knows I'm a "planner" so I'm not going anywhere until I know exactly what I want to do down to the last detail, and of course I will always do what's best for me!

The Standard Hotel - Dr. Gloria, Caroline and Me!  

Sidebar- I almost forgot to mention that another good girl friend of mines attempted to introduce me to a guy I saw in passing a couple months  ago and she totally hooked me up as soon as she saw him again! I spoke with the guy over the phone but had to cut the conversation short due to not being able to hear him well. (I was laid out by the pool with a bunch of cackling tipsy girls and loud music :) However, I thought I made it clear it was okay for him to call me later on that night as I would be available to talk. That was 2 weeks ago, I haven't heard from the brotha since! Lol, I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Ladies and Gents please note - It's not like I haven't been open to meeting guys. As you can see I've done my part in getting out and socializing. If they can't approach me then that's not my problem. And don't get me wrong if I think it's worth it I will definitely approach him or give him an obvious invitation to come "see about me", Lol.

I know deep down that if I just be "patient" the Lord will bless me with a "good man". I just want the Lord to know that I'm just trying to help HIM out! I can't get a man sitting at the house watching Tivo every weekend! And so the Adventures continue.......wish me luck, lol, I have a few more days of vacation left to "Enjoy myself!" Smooches