Thursday, April 21, 2011

I Can Do Bad All By Myself


Hi Beautiful People,
The title for this particular blog seems fitting as my weekend in Vegas did not quite turn out how I thought it would. I guess you could say I had my own expectations and I wasn’t prepared for what was to come. This Vegas Trip was more about spending time with Myself and reflecting on what I need to place priority in

my life. Don’t get me wrong there are perks to being single. This is not to insult those who have families. But I have the freedom to come and go as I please and I can make an immediate decision that does not affect anyone else. However, as a single woman you are still obligated to find friends that are reliable because it is “taboo” to do things on your own. Well I learned quickly that if I don’t go out on my own and explore the world myself (and I wait on someone else to experience it with me) I’m going to miss out. I’ve learned the hard way that I can’t seem to rely on other single people either unless you know for sure “they are on the same page as you”.
This Vegas trip resulted in me doing a lot of things by myself. It was originally planned with other people but when it came down to it “we all were not on the same page”. Therefore, I explored Vegas on my own!  I met a few “new” people this weekend that were really cool with great personalities.
Friday evening, Manny met me at valet upon check-in and he kept up with me throughout the whole weekend, acknowledging me as Ms. Patterson. I took time out to talk to him and get to know him as a person when he had some down time!
Saturday morning @ the Pool I met Tony a police officer from the O.C. participating in the Baker 2 Vegas Run, and his wife (cute couple). They were friendly and kept me company making great conversation, as we attempted to achieve a tan and drink $20 mimosas :). A few hours later, off to the Outlets to do damage! I had no “restraint” and as a result I am on restriction on buying anything else for the next few months. If I would have had a partner in crime someone could have talked some sense into me! But, oh well, what’s done is done. 
Saturday night, Char was my bartender/hostess at N9NE Steakhouse Restaurant and she  took care of my every need as I ate at the bar, Party of 1. Mixing and mingling at the bar was easy as everyone was friendly and inviting.
Sunday night, at RAIN nightclub I met Rochelle and Bianca who invited me to hang with them since I was clubbin solo. We took sexy pics for the paparazzi in the Club and I played big sister  for the rest of the night (making sure they didn’t get too drunk). I had a blast dancing and drinking the night away!
I guess what I’ve learned is that with every day there is room for growth. Right when I think I’ve figured it all out a lesson is learned and I am stronger for the next day! With that being said…I will be patient because I know my time will come, hence the Adventures will continue…Smooches!

My vintage throwback heels, those sucka's hurt, lol

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Baker 2 Vegas Weekend

Jus Me!
Finally, I made it to Las Vegas!
Much love to my hunny bunny Majormusthavs (blog) for making me the Glamgyrl that I am! She is my Hair Extraordinaire!
Pay Close Attention! Here’s the Agenda for Vegas:
Friday night – recooperate from that long ass drive, order room service and rest up for tomorrow. (I missed the deadline for picking up my VIP wristband so I can’t get into the Ghostbar tonight, without having to pay L) So I’m updating my blog!
Saturday morning – Rise and shine breakfast by the pool and attempt to get a Summer tan. Before it gets scorching HOTT! Objective: Flirt with MEN!
Saturday afternoon - Pick up VIP wristband at 1pm for LAPD pool party and rock my leopard dress. Damn, I will officially be a “Cougar” when I make my Entrance (lol)! Objective: Flirt with MEN!
Saturday evening – Dinner at N9NE restaurant with My Girls!  Objective: Flirt with MEN!
Saturday night - Moon Night Club, Objective: Flirt with MEN!
Sunday morning – Fly back to LA to attend my Best Girlfriend Erica Cox’s Baby Shower.
Sunday evening – Fly back to Las Vegas for the MAIN EVENT @ Club RAIN,
Objective: Flirt with Men!
Did I miss anything????
Ahhhh the Single Life!!! It has it’s Perks!
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Adventures of Single N Fabulous in Vegas!!!

Deluxe Room with a View!

Don’t Block Your Blessings

Hi Beautiful People,
I’ve been told in the past that if I continue to “settle” and keep giving men the opportunity to put me in “a situation” that I am continuously “blocking my blessings”. It took awhile for me to figure out what this meant. Effective this past Thursday I was no longer in denial ! So I decided to reflect: There was a time in my life (I was younger) when I had to learn the hard way and I was giving men the power to break my heart. Then I got a little older and learned that I’m the one with the power and I “as a woman” allowed the man to take “my power”. Mother’s, Aunties, older Cousin’s and Grandmother’s have all told us, at one time or another, that a man can only get away with what you allow him to get away with. So as time passed I made the decision to take back my power and control what I wanted to give away and on only on my terms! However, as I dealt with these situations I eventually realized this was still not a good position to be in. How am I looking for “the one” if I’m giving away the one thing that should be sacred in a relationship? God’s looking down on me, He-the patient one. The goal was for me to understand that I need to give up what is not good for me and make some sacrifices to get what it is I really want. So I had to give HIM up! I was comfortable and I guess deep down inside I wanted him to realize what he’s had right in front of him all along, But he must not be the one! So I am moving on, by my damn self! No more “situations”! I have to be consistent and demand what it is I want and that’s “a relationship” (aww damn I might have scared some readers away, lol). If he can respect that then it will be worth the wait! Thanks for listening!
P.S. The significance of the picture above is that only one woman in that picture has a successful relationship and "disappointment" is how I feel right now.
Until next time…Smooches!

Monday, April 4, 2011

First Date...First Impression

Hi Beautiful People,

OMG! Lets review last night's DATE NIGHT! This is why I'm so picky when it comes to dating. Remember that last blog about Nic's Martini Lounge? The one guy I met there, I tried to give him a chance. The Plan: Meet me at Olive Garden in Manhattan Beach Sunday evening. He was dressed cool, he was a gentleman and opened my door and was respectful. We had cool conversation and he paid for dinner. Ladies we all know the purpose of the 1st Date is to get to know each other. Find out if we are on the same page, have the same goals, want the same things. I know that I can't be too picky because I'm not as young as I use to be. However, I refuse to settle! I will make some exceptions but overall I have to be happy with my relationship. After hanging out for 2 hours this is the information I collected, Lets compare: I am 36, he is 27 (strike 1), I have no children, he has 2 (strike 2), I have a career, he is a personal trainer that works sometimes (strike 3). I have a car, HE HAD ME DROP HIM OFF AT HOME (down the street from Olive Garden). ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME! (Please excuse my french)

TRUE OR FALSE: First Impressions are Important
My perception is that first impressions will make or break a first date (it determines if there will be a 2nd date). During the entire date we were good until he asked me to drop him off at the bus stop. I was laughing my ass off because I thought he was kidding! He asked what if a guy was in transition? In my mind, my response was - "if you are in transition you are in no position to be dating!" We walked outside and I am waiting for him to walk to HIS car, He Didn't! I let him sit in my car, I'm still waiting for him to say he's playing with me, He didn't! I start driving and I'm still waiting for him to tell me he's kidding and to stop the car, He didn't. I drove down the street to these new condo style apartments and literally dropped him off at the entrance to the gated community. I asked him was this a TEST? He said sort of and asked me why I was laughing. I became serious and stated that I've never had a guy pull this Shit on me on a FIRST DATE! He responded by extending his hand out for a hand shake and stated that he will find out soon enough if he will hear from me again! In my mind, my response was - "that would be a Hell No!" I still don't know if he really doesn't have a car or if he just wanted to save money on gas. Either way you don't put a female "You Don't Know" in that position on a First Date!

I am a simple girl: I just want you to have a cool personality, have your own place, A CAR, I can handle one kid, a cool job (self-employed hustla or regular job, no degree required),  for you to be honest and respectful and most importantly MY BEST FRIEND! Is that too much to ask????

I guess the Adventures of Single N Fabulous will continue....until next time! Smooches