Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Single By Choice

Hey Beautiful People,

Long Beach Jazz Festival
As I peruse through the news feed of social media called Facebook, lol, I have come across a few articles my friends have posted that involves a lot of commentary regarding the future of childless single women. Society has all of a sudden taken an interest in the fact that there are an abundance of women in society that are single with no children- By Choice! It's like a new cultural phenomenon. Really?

So you know... I have an opinion on this subject!
Please note that there are always Exceptions to the Rule! There will always be those females that are looking for a man to take care of them...so men watch your back!

I concluded a long time ago that I am
Single by CHOICE!
I'm damn near 40....If I don't know what I want in a man by now something is definitely wrong with ME!!

I know what I like and I know what I want and I refuse to SETTLE! As discouraging as dating has been it does help that in the past I've met men who fit my #1 Man Profile...so my expectations are not Too High and what I'm asking for is not Too Much! I can give you a list of what I like but it's going to be real generic (good personality, a sense of humor, passionate about life, career-oriented, and loves children, etc..) but what woman doesn't want that in a man. I can be more specific but then we will be here all night. Simply put...I know him when I meet him....it's just a feeling you get when you are comfortable with someone. If I don't get that Vibe when I meet you then you don't have a shot in Hell...Lmao...Sorry!

Historically the men that I've shown interest in do not necessarily have the same interest in me...and that's okay! It is not the end of the world...at least not for me! So what do I do? I continue to go out and have Fun and I just hope and pray I run into someone who is as passionate about me as I am about them.

That being said...I have no intention of having children without a spouse! Of course I'm sad and disappointed that there is a possibility that I may not have children but I look at life realistically. I don't want to raise a child alone (it's hard as hell), single parenthood is not all it's cracked up to be (I've seen others struggle) and kids now days are no joke (the come out the vagina grown)! In addition, look at the society in which we have to raise them??!! I'm a proud Auntie of a niece that I'm overly protective about and a dog I treat as if she were my child. I know it's not the same but it works for me...don't judge me...Girl Code! (smile)

In the meantime, You know me I try to get out as much as possible. But sometimes there are those days when you just want to relax at home with your dog, Lol. But it's Summer time so I can't stay home too long. I've attended several Jazz Festivals and grown and sexy birthday parties. I'm going to try to travel outside my comfort zone more often in an effort to mix and mingle.

My life is good...I can't complain. And if the path I'm on right now is to be Single...then so be it...I'm going to be damn good at being Single! I have to have faith that when the time is right it will happen for me!

Congratulations to all the newlyweds, newly engaged and those happy in a long term relationship...this is my ultimate goal.

However, I will leave you with this famous modified quote, "I got 99 problems but a F@#k'd up relationship ain't one" Lol...I'd rather wait!

Stay Tuned...The Adventures of SingleNFabulous are in full effect!

1 comment:

  1. I hear you-you are not alone. I will be 40 next month/no children/unmarried. I've been in a relationship for 2 years now (the longest for me ever), but my mate cannot have children. But I am happy. He is who I prayed for, so I will accept that I will only be a honorary mother to his grown daughter. I understand God's plan and I go with the flow. I had to compromise, but like you said, do I really want to raise a child in the world we live in today? For years I dealt with lames, duds-but the experiences were worth it to get to where I am today. It happened when I wasn't even trying! So I've been where you are & pray my happy ending continues with a proposal. Good luck & thank you for opening up to us!