Wednesday, August 21, 2013

10 Things That Keep A Woman Single according to a MAN!

Hey Beautiful People,
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I recently read an article about why women are single that came from the perspective of a Man and I found it very interesting. I did not get offended and the various topics he discussed seemed realistic. I think this is a good Self-Reflection tool for us single ladies to use. After reading the article I could honestly say I do not believe I fall into any of these categories...except for one Number #3! It wouldn't hurt for me to do better in this area (smiley face)...I'm working on it!
Let's review -

The Things That Keep A Woman Single
By Evan Moore of
Heres our list of things single women should stop doing RIGHT NOW to change their fortunes:
1. Your friends and family are poisoning your love life.
Nothing makes a single man cringe like a woman who insists that her bff, mom, big sister take on an active role in their dating lives. Look, we want to date you. Not your FB friends list. No man wants to think about dating a woman long term who cant take a dump without soliciting advice from the nearest member of the clique. When you invite people who dont have to live with the consequences of their judgment into your love life, you only are inviting frustration. Be a big girl. Make decisions on people based on your best judgment.
2. Get out of your mommas house.

Look we get it. Its a rough economy and plenty of guys are still under moms roof too. But really, how is that going to work long-term? No man wants to be picking you up from your moms house like its prom night. If you are not financially secure enough to have your own place, you are NOT ready to date, and youre DAMN SURE not ready to be in a relationship.

3.  Get in shape

We know, we know.we are shallow, misogynistic heathens. But guess what, we are men. We are visual creatures. We know what we like. For most of us sans a small segment of chubby chasers, some of us dont like the biggens. It is what it is. You cant realistically be pushing two spins and then wonder why the cute guy on your bus stop with the ripped up arms and flat stomach just doesnt seem to be into you.

4. Tone down the God stuff, really
Hey, we know some of you ladies love Jesus, but he will be the only man in your life if we think we have to compete with him for your attention. This is a touchy subject and we know faith plays a big part of many of your lives. However, if you go to church more than you go on dates then you are narrowing your pool of available men.

5. Shut up and get off the phone

Women are social creatures. We understand your need to go on and on for hours about.nothing. However, like the rest of this list, we are telling you what a man is thinking when we see this kind of behavior. In this case, we are thinking, "Dear god, does she ever stop? The BFF will live if you dont call her and complain about the b---h in the next cubicle over.

6. Get out of the!

Look, you are not on campus anymore. Being in a club four or five nights per week is not a good look. No man wants a woman that he has to have the DUI lawyer on speed dial. There are many ways to meet men without dressing up like an extra from a Beyoncé video and partying like its 1999.

7. Your Facebook page is your worst enemy.

In the social media age, nothing will tell the tale about you as a woman more than your Facebook page. Here are three things that are an immediate deal breaker with the fellas. First, if you have 300 pictures on your profile, and 299 of them are of you, you are basically telling Mr. Right that YOU are the most important thing in your world; I mean damn, you dont have a dog or something? Second, put some clothes on. Thats exactly what we as men want, a mate where all my bros have seen your asscrack. Third, control your emotions. Nothing says potential stalker/drama queen like a woman who lashes out constantly in frustration over the men she dates.

8. Carry yourself like someone who actually likes men.

Attitude is everything. The last thing a man wants to add to his life is a woman who is mean, combative or bitter. If you have unresolved issues, get counseling. A man is not a punching bag or a psychologist. You say Hes not strong enough for me! No lady, Everclear is not strong enough for you. So many ladies out there have taken the bad b---h attitude. Some guys may gravitate to that for a one night fling. Most avoid it for legal reasons.Im just saying.

9. Know your role

One of the primary reasons the fellas will put your ass on waivers is because the woman cannot or will not play her position. I dont mean be submissive or look the other way if hes being shady. I mean be a friend if he wants a friend, be a great lover if thats what it is, be a girlfriend if both of you decide thats the right thing to do. Nothing will get you put into the f--k buddy file faster than demanding or taking privileges designed for someone you are not. If you are not his girlfriend, why are you checking his phone or asking where he was last night? You cant force a man into anything he doesnt want to do. Earn his trust and admiration before you earn his ire.
10. Temper your expectations.

Lets be very honest. Lots of men out here ain't s--t. We know that. However, just like your flawed ass, men have imperfections that can change over time; maybe they wont. But for you to demand that Mr. Right should be running a Fortune 500 company, benching 300 pounds, while making your mother giggle from jokes is just downright silly. Be realistic about what you want. Everybody has likes and dislikes, its human nature. But when you create unrealistic and in some cases, bizarre barriers to meeting men, you are only narrowing the pool of candidates. That guy that works for the streets and sanitation crew with a two-year-old son may not be the best option, but he IS an option. The guy living in the shady hood with the beater car that works at Target and goes to school at night may not be taking you to San Tropez anytime soon, but Ill guarantee hell take you somewhere nice every year if you stick with him and build something together.

Honorable Mention:

Comparing your girlfriends husband or boyfriend to your mate. Men hate that.

Just because a man compliments you or tells you good morning does not mean that he is hitting on you. Hes just being polite.

Its okay to read Steve Harveys book. But tread lightly.

Now that you've read the article...Leave a Comment and let me know what you think about the Male Perspective!
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1 comment:

  1. I think he makes a lot of valid points in this article. But, the coin definitely lands on both sides. Some of these could definitely apply to men as well. Now you should make your own list for the men! Haha Great blog ladybug.