Ok so I was spending quality time with my family on Mother's Day and I ended up in a conversation with my brother-in-law regarding the ever so popular topic - have I met any new guys recently? I explained that after that last incident I haven't been on a date since. What was interesting is that he is the one that told me “Sis don’t settle, just be patient and he will come”. Mind you my brother-in-law is younger than me however knows what he wants based on his personal life experiences as a youth growing up in a single parent household. I was happy to hear his support of me and his encouragement to “keep my head up” –Tupac. Coincidentally, a light bulb came on, Steve Harvey is right! "We as women" have to assess (listen to what he’s telling you) whether a man is where HE wants to be in life and then only HE can give his ALL to a relationship with US. Right now I can honestly say that I'm not meeting any "worthy" candidates. Don’t get me wrong, I believe there are “good men” (somewhere) out there.
- I could blame it on the fact that I reside in LA (too easy).
- I could say that the quality of men available left to choose from has deteriorated (Somewhat true).
- I could say that I'm not “mingling” in the right places or at the right times (I’m out every other weekend). But overall those different functions can add up to - Expensive!
- I go to church?? Maybe I should attend 11am service instead of 9am (Lol).
Who knows? It could be all of the above or none of the above.
Seeing that I don’t have all the answers I’ve made it a point to ALWAYS Self Reflect! I'm not perfect and I'm not looking for perfect. I know we all have our “preferences” and “deal breakers” but people always like to comment that my “expectations” may be too high. I don’t think people should make generalizing statements, as such, until they’ve actually asked me what I am looking for. My only response to this statement is “I’ve met guys in the past who have met my expectations and I know he exists and therefore I refuse to settle!” Unfortunately, I was not “The One” for them or the “timing” was not right. I’ve heard that there are some who are in your life for a season and those who are in your life for a reason! Well whatever the reason is I guess it’s not my season yet! For those of you who are interested “Spring is my favorite season”, so I guess until 2012 I have the right to “act a fool and be Single in this upcoming scorching Hott season - Summer” until I meet my “match” ;)
P.S. - Not long ago I was talking to a guy friend of mine and it appears that he is having the same dilemma with females (Whaaat, say it isn’t so). Sometimes the best things are right in front of you (sounds like I need to listen to my own advice J)
Just thought I’d share what was on my heart…until next time…Smooches…SingleNFabulous