Wednesday, October 14, 2015

FINALLY, I'm going on a Date....Or So I Thought ??

Hi Beautiful People,

I have truly missed you guys!

Let me be you know me to be anything BUT, Lol.

I really wish I had Singlenfab Adventures every weekend that consisted of fun and elaborate stories to tell you but LIFE just does not happen that way. I'm sure you already know this. One weekend I might be in the streets "turnt up" and then the next weekend I'm just chillin' with the Fam Bam. It's during these normal times in my life that I'm hoping to meet someone "organically". complete accident!

So when something does go down I get really excited because My Blog is my outlet and I love sharing and hearing your opinions on my Single Life Shenanigans (SLS, lol)!

So 2 weekends ago my sister invited me to be her plus 1 at the birthday party of three Beautiful Ladies she knew: Yvette, Nikki & Kya. The gentleman in the picture is Anthony from New Orleans and his first time in Cali. He was a total sweetheart and had that southern hospitality. So a selfie was mandatory when you meet good people!

As my sister and I were mixing and mingling we grabbed a drink from the open bar and posted up at a table. This "other" random guy introduced himself and swore up and down he knew both of us from back in the day. We went through all the formalities trying to figure it out: what high school did you go to, what year did you graduate, do you know so and so, etc. Through this conversation I thought he had a cool personality and was funny. In summary he is a grown ass man (my age) with a good job (lol). When we were ready to leave the party I had a quick thought that it would be a good idea to keep in touch with him because he's one of those guys that's cool to hang out with so I told him to "take my number down". There might have been a little flirting before I left that motivated me to give him my number.

Sidebar - Aren't you proud of me I actually took the initiative.

#1 - he had good conversation and a cool personality and this is what got him the number.

#2 - he told me he was going to call me that night (not text me). I had to shut that down real quick I told him it was already 1 am so I asked him to call me tomorrow. He said he'd text me to see when was a good time we would have a conversation. I agreed.

The next day he text me. I told him I would call him as soon as I got to the house. I called back within 30 minutes. We stayed on the phone for at least 1.5 hours. During this time I found out he has been married twice and has a total of 4 kids and he recently just got out of a relationship he was in for 4 years.

WTH ??? My first thought was - Really Lord, this is what you send me?!

He just went from my #1 Draft pick, straight to the Bench!

Now I've been accused of having "high" standards but damn am I suppose to be okay with all this information I just found out. Are these my #relationshipgoals ?? I haven't even asked any detailed personal questions because we just met but I'm not sure if I really want to know!

But I've also been told that I have a tendency to shut 'em down real quick. So shoot me for knowing what I want! I said okay let me give him a shot I'm open to going on a date. As we spoke on the phone he asked me when we could go out and I said next weekend. He seemed to be cool with that answer. We texted throughout the week and then I didn't speak with him for a couple of days. I think around Thursday I texted him to ask if he wanted to meet me at The Game Sports Bar and Grill in Inglewood to watch the 49er vs Giants game since I knew he was a football fan and I wanted to watch my Fantasy Football Team rack up some points. He was okay with it but said he had to go to work at 7 pm. So with the game starting at 5 pm that only gave us about 1.5 hours to converse in person and I was okay with that. Sunday afternoon comes and I'm running late leaving my 3 pm appointment. I knew I needed to get to the GS early to get a seat so I text him to let him know I was on my way.

He text back - Hey lady, I'm not going to be able to make it, I had a rough night at work and have to be back their tonight, I will catch up with you another time.

We sent a few more texts back and forth and the conversation ended and I no longer had a DATE!

Now don't get me wrong I completely understand when someone has a rough night at work. I've worked the "night shift" before so I know what it's like to need to sleep in or recuperate from the night before.

BUT...what I'm trying to figure out is when were you going to tell me you needed to cancel our date???? There was no courtesy call or text prior to me reaching out first. What if I would have just showed up at the GS without talking to him? Would I have just been sitting there waiting on a man who was not coming? Would he have waited to the last minute to tell me? or Not at all? I don't know.

But what I do know is that I'm not making any effort to reach out to him again. I was proud of myself for giving him the number and initiating plans to meet up...only to be let down. I'm not jumping to conclusions and cutting him off (yet) and I will give him a chance to redeem himself but if he wants to see me it's on him now.

As you can see the Frustration is Real
and so the Adventures of SingleNFabulous MUST go on...



  1. Very fun read! As a single girl myself ( in Atlanta so the struggle is so real) I can definitely relate! Will definitely be keeping up with the SLS lol #blmgirl

    1. Thank you for your reply Cristi! I see the dating struggle is not just in Cali, but it's discouraging to know you are going through the same thing in the ATL (smh) I thought about moving somewhere else but WHERE??? Lol. If I hear of any good ideas I'll let you know. Thanks for your support :)