Sunday, June 5, 2011

Intimidated...Or Not

Hey Beautiful People,

It’s June and Summer is Officially Here! No Scorching Heat yet, but I can’t wait. You know a sista needs a TAN asap J
I’m back to share/discuss the "pattern" I’ve been dealing with every time I go out. Not once but several times I’ve been out attending different events and NO LUCK in meeting anyone!

Let me give you the rundown:
Memorial Day Weekend - I hung out at the Roosevelt Hotel Pool, relaxing in the shade with two cool guys from the Bay area (not my type) but made no connections with anyone.

I went to the UCLA Jazz/Reggae Festival – Jam Day on Sunday – I got lots of sun, had fun with my girlfriends and enjoyed Lupe Fiasco, but no such luck. (P.S. There was a big crowd on this day but a very limited amount of “potentials”, I was sadly disappointed).

Last night, I went to my girlfriend’s Birthday Bash at an Art Gallery – stuntin’ in my haram outfit, decent looking guys but no phone numbers. The one guy I did talk to most of the night was from Seattle, Washington!
What’s a girl gotta do? I really need to be in a room full of handsome eligible bachelors or at a Speed Dating Event because this is Ridiculous!

Is it me? I’ve been told about the “intimidation factor” but I didn’t think this was going to be an issue in meeting other people. Let me rewind, I was told a few years back by a male friend that some men are “intimidated by me” and will not approach me because they assume I am going to “be rude, say no or that I am stuck-up”. Of course I was taken aback by this but what can you do if some assumes these things about you. However, I have a tip for guys - If you observe my body language I am always friendly towards the people I am around, I am very talkative and I love to dance.”  If you are paying attention you will observe all these things which should make you a little more comfortable in approaching me.

For the Record – Some of us LA Women Keep it Real, please stop assuming we are “Hollywood” we are not those fake hoe’s on Basketball Wives, thank you!

In the meantime, I can’t wait for the Essence Festival in New Orleans, Louisiana, starting at the end of this month (4th of July weekend), because then I know that I will be surrounded by an abundance of “Grown men” who will not be intimidated nor have a problem expressing their interest or appreciation of a fabulous Black woman J! Damn, why do I have to go to another STATE to feel the LOVE! Maybe I need to Move?????????
Stay tuned as the Adventures will continue....Smooches


  1. Wow...i say the same thing!!! Y are Men so intimidated by a beautiful Sista!!... One guy said well at first i wasnt gonna approach u because I figured you were here with sum one??? wat at a club?? Excuses Excuses!!! And i say this all the time...The man for me is not in Cali!!! its time to Move sista gurl!! lol

  2. I love this fit and those shoes. Can you tell us what you are wearing. God has someone picked out just for you, you'll see. :) God bless...

  3. I love the color of the outfit! Is it a tunic? A strapless maxi dress...

    Miss Fancy
    Bringing you all that is Fancy

  4. Wow!
    Calling the women on basketball wives "h*'s
    was really not the move.

    unless u r the virgin mary< u really and i mean this with all sincerity have room call them names>
    U have had relations outside of marriage
    U seek to date/marry a man who financially sound
    U have definitely had drama with a man
    U are displaying ur relationships issues to the world

    So again should u be called a H*?

  5. To Anonymous,

    What's it to you? Who cares what she calls the Basketball Wives???? Hell most of them aren't even wives, that should tell you something right there. You obviously don't understand the point of this blog. She doesn't claim to be the Virgin Mary. It's not about relations outside of marriage. It's about trying to find your male equal, spiritually, mentally and physically. A husband till death do you part. Not, who can I marry, date or sleep with for publicity. Oh and lets make sure to get it on camera and bring the drama for the ratings. And don't forget to get half if it doesn't work out. The Basketball Wives make women look bad. She's stating that she hopes the men in LA don't think all women in LA are like that. Especially since our reputations are being tarnished because of that show. Her blog is about her adventures of dating and the obstacles we come across. And sharing them with the women who can relate as, some of us, search for 'the one' the same as she does.
    So if you didn't know there's NO Hoe writing this blog. Get it right.

    Inglewood, I REP that WEST!