You Never Know Until You Try!

Hey Beautiful People,

Throwback pic with my short cut!

Okay so I am officially irritated with the alleged “potentials”I met on Match.com and the market of men advertised on there.

Initially I was motivated -
It started with this one guy where we corresponded back and forth and I text him one weekend to ask him how he was doing and he responded. I wasn’t trying to hold a conversation but being thoughtful. I got one response, I then text him another question but did not get a response and then nothing after that. He could have called me because he had my number at that point or he could have asked me not to text him but to call him instead and I would have been fine with that…everyone has their preference but Nothing???? I haven’t heard from him since. Was that not an invitation once I text him? He now has my number?! Must I spell it out. I’m not completely done with him and I guess I can email him and ask him what his preference is but I don’t feel I’m the one who should contact him as I initiated the conversation outside of the emails. I will keep you posted on my decision…

Then there is this other guy. He does nothing but text me??? I had to check him because he kept texting me 4 times in the same day “a random hello, hope your day is good, hi, happy face…etc. Mind you I had a busy day and did not have time to respond but he’s still texting me. I had to let him know that texting me at 7am is not the business and if I don’t respond to the first text don’t send me 3 more…assume I’m busy! To cushion the “blow” because I know I can be “blunt at times” :)  I invited him to call me so we can have a “live phone conversation” but no he’s still texting me. And guys wonder why this is a turn off!!! On top of that when I respond to his text it feels like he’s not even reading it because he then sends another text (same day or on another day) saying some other random thought. He has yet to get on the phone and have a “real” conversation with me. I’m in my right mind to stop texting him all together and see if he picks up the phone to TALK. If not, it’s his LOSS!

The other guy that lives in Compton, has a cool job and had good conversation and seemed interested.... I gave him my phone number and he hasn’t called. Really? What was the point to us conversing via email if there is no “follow through”. I thought I was not suppose to be the assertive one in this case??? Lord I am too through. I feel like this is a waste of time and money!

My friend already told me I need to be on Plenty of Phish (it’s Free). If I’m paying for a Matchmaking Site and I’m not getting any decent men that are willing to step up I will have to save my money and venture back to my old school principals “meet your crazy butt live and in-person”and least then I can cut through the bull shit quickly! August is my last month on Match.com. some things better change or I will have to invest my money elsewhere (like a new pair of shoes)!

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous MUST go on....Smooches!

Online Dating...Why Not?!

OMG! Beautiful people,  I have to update you on my dating life!

My Black is Beautiful !

So I took a chance (on an unknown kid, lol - Clueless) and created my profile on Match.com. I left my options open as far as race and gave myself a 50 mile radius (because you and me both know I haven't had any luck within my neighboring cities). I've been getting matches in the city of Encino, Walnut, Sherman Oaks, Torrance, Compton, etc. These guys appear to be cool and I can decide on who I want to email based on how they describe themselves on their profile picture. You know I can spot a crazy a mile away!

I recently began corresponding with this 1 guy (retired fireman) and his profile information is right on point with what I'm looking for...however I need to have a few more conversations with him so I can get details on his expectations of a woman... so naturally you know I'm going to keep you posted :) I'm also not going to let this 1 guy be my only prospect...mama's on the prowl and always keeping my options open.

On the way back from D.C. I get another email from another match.com prospect. Only downfall right now is that he's 30 years old. I think I put my preference as 35 and older. You know I'm young at heart....but I ain't no cougar, Lol. He left his phone number and expressed his interest. It looks like we will have to have a conversation when I get back in town. Let me see what he's working with and/or have to offer and I will get back to you guys with an update.

Looks like I'm popular. Awwww wait a minute! I got an email from a brotha in Compton. He already told me he is gainfully employed and has been on the job for over 6 years. He enjoys outside activities, traveling, having a good time and companionship. He doesn't sound bad at all.

L.A. meets D.C.

Okay, so I went to No prospects... to talking to three guys right now, get em Sheda, Lol. I've been conversing (that's how you say that people - conversate is not a word, lol) with these gentlemen via email and the conversation has been pretty cool so far. Now I just have to figure out when is the right time to meet them in person (in a public place of course ;). You guys know that I don't have the best work schedule but I'm going to have to figure something out. Starbucks meet and greet, Lunch date and/or Taco Tuesday Happy Hour. This way I'm not wasting my time or their money, Lol.
By the next Blog I should have met at least one or two of these guys in person and I can give you the skinny on how the initial first impression went down. Remember what happened last time (Blog 4/4/11)...I refuse to give anybody a ride home...Again...that's just out the damn question!

Until next time...The Adventures of SingleNFabulous Continue...Smooches

My Family Reunion on the East Coast - Washington, D.C. baby!

Good morning Beautiful People,

It is officially July 6th, 2012 at 7:01 am and I am sleepy! Just got off the plane traveling from LAX to Detroit, Michigan. I took a Red-eye and I have a 4 hour layover (lucky me) so I'm sitting at Max & Erma's for Breakfast. Detroit's airport is pretty cool as it has a tram overhead that takes you from one terminal to the next, a few cool shops are open for you to spend all your money before you even start your vacation and there are actually a lot of options in your choice of eateries. Overall, I'm just grateful I found a place I can sit comfortably and eat something other than Starbucks or Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf...I was able to get some real food that isn't overpriced :)

For those of you who don't know, I always have an annual trip planned to forcefully give myself a vacation which becomes inevitable and necessary to my mental health. One year I get to wild-out and go to the Essence Festival and then the following year my family chooses to host a family reunion in different states. As you can see, it is the year of the Family Reunion and Washington, D. C. is the spot to be at. This will be my 2nd time in D. C. ...1st time was at a Howard University Graduation years ago. Seeing that I'm really not familiar with the East Coast and I won't have a lot of time to venture out and explore the neighboring states such as New York... I have officially decided to plan a New York trip in 2013. There are so many things to do, people to see and places to shop that I will probably need to be there at least a week ;)

My Family Time in Washington, D.C. was truly Priceless!


Friday night -
Family met at the Cafe downstairs at the " Meet and Greet" to receive our weekend reunion information and I fell in love with our patriotic family T-shirts :). The day ended with dinner at Maggiano's with myself, my adult cousin and her daughter and my Aunt and Uncle. Dinner was delicious (especially the crab cakes) and we took enough food back to the hotel to eat for 2 days. I highly recommend this restaurant and I believe we have one located at The Grove in LA :) Sad to say that I did not get to go out and experience the D. C. nightlife as my twin was not able to make it to the Reunion :( and my adult cousin had her daughter with her so I didn't have a partner in crime to hang with me. There was no way I was going to brave the D.C. streets by myself with no knowledge of where the hell I was going. I guess it worked itself out because I needed to go to bed due to the 3 hour time change and I knew I was expected to get up early the next day.

Saturday Day - The 1/2 Day D.C. tour was GREAT!
Bright eye and Bushy Tailed...I am not a Morning person, LOL...Coffee was mandatory! My family of approximately 30 people boarded an air conditioned chartered bus and got a tour of our nations Capital. My Flip video came in handy when we were at the Lincoln Memorial as it was very historical and breathtaking to see history right in front of me. My "paparazzi" Nikon camera...that I love soooo much...came in handy for the Walk-Patterson daytime activities such as the family photo at the White House, pictures of The Capitol and pictures of the New! Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial.

Saturday night - I was Beat up from touring in the 105 degree heat and I thought I was going to take a nap in my hotel room but that didn't happen. Loehman's, TJ Maxx, Nordstrom's Rack were calling my name :) and seeing as they were in walking distance...how could I say no :). After not spending any money because nothing caught my eye it was time for dinner at Georgia Brown's soul food restaurant. It turned out to be a very nice place with live jazz music, beautiful ambiance, delicious food and great customer service. Our party of 9 ate, drank and was merry, Lol. I was happy that I was able to get out and experience some form of night life seeing that I didn't get the chance to really go out and enjoy a Lounge. Oh did I tell you we took the underground Metro blue and orange lines to get there. That was fun and very convenient. I haven't even taken the Metro in L.A. (note- something to do when I get back home).

Sunday Banquet - Fellowship with family. This is the last day of the reunion and it was time for us to part ways. Brunch was delicious and we took lots of family photos. The family agreed the next Family Reunion would be hosted in Las Vegas in 2014. I'm so excited and I can't wait to plan this Reunion because we have to make it happen because we Reppin the West Coast!

Well beautiful people, no love connections in D.C. but that's okay because I have another plan brewing as I type.

Until next time...The Adventures of SingleNFabulous Continue...Smooches

I Whip My Hair Back and Forth...LOL

Hey Beautiful People,

June is here and I feel the Sun coming Out!

I LOVE the Season of Summer.

It’s the perfect weather for attending as many Jazz Festivals as possible!

I Love my 80's Ponytail

By the way...I did go out on a Date with that “so-called” Basketball Player and “he just wasn’t my cup of tea”, LOL.

In summary, he was cheap (we went to BJ’s instead of what I suggested P.F. Changs), his conversation was boring (I couldn’t wait to get up out of there), he came on too strong (felt the need to talk about my “spirit” and “aura”) and his outfit was from the 1980’s (remember the parachute windbreaker jumpsuits…uh yeah…I was like Really? This is the same guy who initially told me he was looking for a mall that had the Armani and Gucci store) and lastly….I found out he has 3 kids. That’s a deal breaker for me, I’m done!

Here’s the Single Ladies Ratio my younger sister taught me sometime ago. If I have 0 kids then the man is allowed to have 1. She told me that you can’t expect any man of my age (30 ish :) not to have any kids…we have to be realistic. However you don’t have to accept the “Brady Bunch” either unless you are comfortable with integrating into this family. Clearly I'm not.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve met men with children and I can handle 1, maybe 2 depending on their ages but 3 “no bueno”. So that Date was a Bust! and I haven’t been on any others since. I really think I’m going to get on Match.com next and see what happens J. I’m not a fan of the Free Single websites because I think “everybody and they mama” will get on those (no offense to those that utilize them). If you have any good reviews of these sites feel free to stop by and Comment and let me know what your experience has been. As for my preference I'm going to need to weed out some of the cheap dates and I’m willing to invest a little money into my future. I will keep you posted on how that endeavor goes!

New Edition Concert! Oh Yeah

Ronnie, Bobby, Ricky and Mike...Ralph and Johnny too!

I almost did not go to this Concert people! My head was hurting, I was tired, my sister and I were running late and I didn’t have anything to wear. But I mustered up the strength, threw on some clothes and made it happen. I am so Happy I went. We heard all the old school jams and had a blast. Of course I had to run into some people I know…because it's a small world. Don’t you love it when a guy sees you and gives you all the Attention in the world because he obviously misses you,  but the minute you are out of his eye sight you are out of his mind. That’s a Red flag for me! So sad which is why we are...Moving on.  It was a great Concert and I had a good time. Now all I have to do is find out when Boys II Men are performing so I can complete my Old School Roster!

Okay so I mentioned Jazz Festivals’ at the beginning of the Blog…

Upcoming in the Month of August is

RnB Live at Pomona Fairplex,

JazzFest West in San Dimas and

 The Long Beach Jazz Festival…whose going with me J?

 If they have a Sunday Jazz date...I plan on being there!

P.S. I forgot to mention I will be in Washington, D.C. for my Family Reunion 4th of July weekend. So let's see if I can have a little fun on my vacation!

The Adventures of Single and Fabulous will Go Down

on the East Coast next week.... so stay tuned...until then Smooches!

All Dressed Up with Nowhere to Go

Hey Beautiful People,

I'm soooooooo frustrated over my Memorial Day weekend.

I came off of a rough work week and my Saturday night ended with me taking someone's kid to foster care.... I needed a drink and my 2 step.

So I admit, I decided to try and go to an ALL White Party at the last minute because I didn't want to have a 3 day weekend to go to waste.

Unfortunately, I didn't go see my Stylist this week and my hair wasn't done because I was suppose to be going to the gym (i'm still working on that part :) So I was going to have to create a miracle with these blonde/brown tresses!

Sunday morning: I dragged my sister into this mess and convinced her WE needed to go out to celebrate the Weekend.

1st on my Agenda -  I found a dress at my favorite spot Philthy Ragz...where you can never go wrong!

Then, I hit up my homeboy and told him I was going to swing through to the Geisha House in Hollywood focused on having a good time because its been awhile.

Sunday Afternoon: My sis and I went to the mall looking for a white blazer for her and accessories.

Sunday night: Faces were "beat" as usual...and We were fashionably late as usual..what did you expect ;)

Outside the Geisha House, no line? (red flag)......Paid $20......Get inside and it's a small room with a crowd of people.....Really is this it? So I found out there is another room in the Club but it just hasn't opened up yet. But after looking at this crowd of people it just wasn't "my cup of tea".

First of all, Why do you invite people to an All White Party and not enforce the dress code??? If this was the case I would have worn whatever the hell I had in the closet. Second, why are there always more girls then guys. Third, did you even look at who you invited to this party...any and everybody???

I'm sorry but I openly admit that I have bougie tendencies! If I wanted to go to a hood party I would have hit up a house party, there is a time and a place for everything. But when I'm dressed to the 9's and trying to find a husband I'm trying to go Upscale. Well apparently I wasn't in the right place because my sister and I left within the first 20 minutes as it wasn't our type of crowd. I was so disappointed and had to inform my homeboy that my expectations were much different that what he was promoting.  He normally has a good track record :(

We then tried to go to another destination Jon B Live at the Conga Room but I was told there were way too many women there too! Another failed mission.

We were All Dressed Up with nowhere to go...it was such a disappointment.

Home was my final destination.

I'm so sad that I wasn't in Las Vegas with my boys Dana and Kasey :( now THEY know how to party!

 

So now I'm planning my vacations way in advance! Labor Day weekend I will not be at work. My vacation is being planned now! For the upcoming Jazz Festivals I will be buying my tickets in advance! I will never deal with this situation again! I Definitely need to find another job ASAP, these hours are ruining my social life!

Speaking of Social Life.....I met a guy at the gas station by accident.

Okay here's the quick version:

I was working in Long Beach Friday night and was trying to get some gas.
He asked me for directions to Lakewood Mall, I helped him out

He mentioned he was from NY just bought a house in Signal Hill and just moved out here to play for the Clippers...whaaaaat?

Oh Lord, please don't set me up again!

I said he looked a little short to be playing for the Clippers (i was clownin)

He got the joke and stated he was a point guard (ummmmmmm hmmmmmm).

He mentioned he wanted to go shopping to pick up a few pieces from Gucci and Armani so I redirected him to South Coast Plaza.

He thanked me for taking the time out to help a brotha out and offered to take me to lunch.

We exchanged numbers... Not bad huh?.....he seemed cool.

I will keep you posted on any future activities with this one. I haven't confirmed the Clipper status yet so I will let you know when I obtain additional information. Seeing that the season is over he may be on the roster for 2013, we will see???

Until next time...The Adventures of Single and Fabulous must go on...Smooches!

Destination Wedding - Negril, Jamaica

Hey Beautiful people,

I tried to get this damn Resort Wi-fi to work without charging me astronomical prices so you could get an International Blog this week :) straight from Jamaica mon! But that didn't happen...so sorry...maybe next time!

Blogging in Jamaica

 Topic of the Day - Marriage

Although marriage is not the most popular pathway people have chosen to take in this day and time, I am proud to say I still believe in the "institution of marriage".

The reason for my position is simple: I know couple's who are happy and in a successful relationship.

Case in point - I am in Negril, Jamaica attending a "destination wedding" of a very loving couple (mid to late 20's) who appear to cherish each other and have made the commitment to spend their lives together. I was in Cancun 2 years ago attending another "destination wedding" of a Couple that was around my age (mid to late 30's). I can't help but to think that "true love" and "compassion" still exists and that special someone exists for each and every one of us...when the time is right.

I also have other positive examples in my life such as my parents, uncle's/aunt's and grandparents that have been in long term marriages and it appears to be working for them 30 plus years later. Seeing that this is the example my family has shown me regarding commitment it is only natural for me to seek out a committed relationship that will eventually lead to marriage.

All that being said, I am completely excited about being in Negril, Jamaica to attend a wedding and take a long overdue Jaication (Jamaica + Vacation :)!

1st stop - The Seawind Resort Hotel (1 night only), Greeted with a Rum punch and a cold towel...I can't complain. Live Jazz music and Jerk Chicken Dinner for $12, Delicious!

I loved relaxing at the outdoors Restaurant located by the water listening to the cover band sing all the greatest hits from...Nintey-four Seven, The Waaaaaaave! Lol

2nd stop - Couples Resort - Swept Away (3 nights)

Greeted by a glass of champagne and a cold towel...heeey now! Let the party begin! We meet up with the engaged couple and get the party started with the wedding guests by THE most gorgeous beach, woo woo!

Our girl Trisha made sure we stayed cute as she was on BGHW - Black Girl Hair Watch- from Friday to Saturday, while we were on the beach! Everyone knows the last thing a sista wants to do is get her hair wet. My twin and I had to make sure the hair did not get WET as it had to look good for the wedding Saturday! Afterwards all bets are off :)
Sidebar - Next time I go to Jamaica you best believe I'm braiding this hair up and jumping straight in that beautiful water! Don't' get it twisted I will be ready for all the water sports: snorkeling, wave runners/jet skiing and parasailing.

First on the Agenda - OMG! The Bob Marley shots on the beach...tasted like kerosene, it was no joke! I was good and tipsy for the rest of the night! The wedding was held in the Garden and it was Beautiful. The Dinner/Reception was on the beach and it was Gorgeous. The partying started on the beach and continued to the Resort Club. My ankles were hurting after all that dancing! I had a blast with the most coolest people ever!

Bob Marley Shots!

This was a stress free/relaxing vacation and I enjoyed every minute of it! Granted I should have slept with every cute Jamaican guy there (as there were a few) but I just wasn't feeling it! Sidebar - back in my college days I would have gotten it in! But at this point in my life I didn't' feel the need to re-enact Stella getting her groove back! If anything I was "envious" of all the "couples" (most married) that were present and attending the wedding. It's times like these where I wish I had a "spouse and/or significant other" when going to a Couples Resort.

Of Course...

Leave it to Resheda to attract the wrong kind of guy in another country! I briefly met this guy by accident in the Pasta Bar line during dinner. I wasn’t trying to create attention, he introduced himself to me. He was okay looking but appeared to be a little rough around the edges with lots of random tattoos and a chipped tooth. He introduced himself, said he eas from Chicago and has been watching me during most of the vacation (yellow flag - possible stalker). I ask him what he does for a living, he says he’s an “entrepreneur” (red flag – that’s not specific, that’s a general description). He asks for my phone number but states his phone doesn’t work in Jamaica (yellow flag – my phone works, what’s wrong with yours?) He says he’s willing to fly to see me in LA (red flag – you don’t know me, we just met! Hell I’m not thinking about flying out to see you, I’m thinking let’s have a few phone conversations and find out what we have in common). Needless to say he managed to write his phone number down on a piece of paper to give to me….too many yellow and red flags for me to even entertain the idea of a long distance relationship…okay maybe he just didn’t peak my interest. And the  beat goes on... :)

Sidebar - Just a Warning - never fly Spirit Airlines they are a total rip off! They get you by advertising a “cheap” airfare but then charge you for everything under the sun once you buy your ticket!

Overall, I had a great time…I enjoyed my Jaication and I wish it could have lasted longer but it’s back to REALITY!

Let’s see what future activities I can get into that can provoke some stimulating Blogging…

The Adventures of SinglenFabulous must continue…Smooches!

Text Msgs vs. A Real Conversation

Hey Beautiful people,

Kirk & Meagen's Bridal Shower @ the Malibu Winery

Sorry for the delay but I had to rewrite this Post because something happened and I lost everything. I could have swore I saved everything but here I am re-doing it, again!

Shout out to My girl Tanya - Major Must Havs blog for sending new Followers my way :) Thanks boo!

A few weeks ago I went to the Pet Expo with my twin sis and puppy Bailey. This Expo is in Orange County for three days and Friday is the only day they allow you to bring your pet. I thought it would be a great day to get out in the sun and let Bailey run around with her fellow four-legged friends. It turned out to be a beautiful day and everyone was so friendly and nice. While hanging out at this Event browsing all the different Vendors and the products they had for sale I ran into a nice looking guy! In the process of talking about the "product" he was trying to sell me he asked for my phone number, Cool.

Mistake #1-
He sends me a text message instead of taking the time to pick up the phone and have an actual conversation!

Granted we've had very few basic text conversations prior to what you are going to read below.

Here's how the TEXT conversation went on 4/22/12:

Him: You got a curfew tonight
Me: Nope

In my mind - what kind of question is that...I'm grown!

Him: Maybe we should link up and make out, lol.
Me: Lol, where u trying to meet up?

In my mind - he's playing right? "make-out?"

Him: I'm still in Costa Mesa
Me: Ok hit me up later

In my mind: call me when you are closer to L.A we can meet somewhere.

Him: So u down to make out?
Me: U doing too much, I don't know you MAN!

In my mind: He is serious??? Really?? I just met your ass!

Him: Lol

In my mind: You're laughing but you really want to know if meeting up with me is going to be worth your time...WOW.

It's sad how I'm able to tell you guys verbatim how this conversation goes via text message. What happened to "talking"??? This is a total turn off for me. It's like "conversations" have become Extinct - null and void. You can not truly get to know someone by sending a 2 to 4 long ass text messages!

You think I've heard from that fool since...Nope! He was cute but he already had an Agenda and knew what he wanted and ASSUMED I was going to give it to him... but that nucca don't even know ME! That's the problem, No one wants to have a conversation anymore to get to know someone. Well I;m sure we've all concluded that he wasn't THE ONE, Lol.

Ladies...I refuse to settle so I guess it's On to the Next One! I'd rather be by my damn self than have to deal with the BS!

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous must continue... so on to Negril, Jamaica for a Wedding. 

Let's see if Stella can get her Groove Back, lol. 

Well I know I'm bringing Sexy Back while I'm out there.... 

but I AM NOT bringing a JAMAICAN Back, Lmao!

Smooches