My "Zen" Weekend

I couldn’t wait to go out Friday night as I was/am so “Over It”. My job that is! I was tired from a long work week and ready for a glass of wine! Unfortunately my hair appointment  conflicted with a "long overdue happy hour” with my co-workers but I had to sacrifice one for the other :( But I know my girls had a good time as they should :)! 

I made it home just in time to throw an outfit together and go out to Villa Lounge in West Hollywood to support my girl April in celebrating her new membership into a very distinguished social organization "representing that crimson and white", lol. Of course my girl friend Devona and I arrived in Style! The venue was Hott! Cool little spot to be at on a Friday night. Good crowd of people, DJ was jamming and drinks were expensive but delicious! Sidebar- I love it when a guy just stares at you but doesn’t have the confidence to approach you (in my sarcastic voice). I had a blast hanging out with my girls and dancing the night away. That night was just what I needed to relieve some Stress!

For some reason this was my Zen weekend (lol @ Keisha ;) Sometimes my status on Facebook or BBM might say “Just Breathe”… It’s my state of mind at that time, heavenly influenced by an Interlude called “Breathe” by Jill Scott. This weekend I was inspired by Jill Scott’s album “The Real Thing Words and Sounds Vol. 3”.

The song “The Real Thing” is powerful and passionate, she says:  “you gotta do right by me, it’s mandatory baby, sweeter than your favorite ice cream, basking with glory baby…I’m the real thing in stereo, I got a little highs I got a little lows, follow this melodic flow I can make you shine I can make you glow! I can play this album straight through from beginning to end.

My favorite single is “Wanna Be Loved” as every single word on this track describes my feelings right now! I’ve realized that we “as women” have so many things in common: no matter what your celebrity status is, or how much money you have, what neighborhood your from or your nationality, we all have our moments when we are at our most vulnerable as human beings and desire the same things - one of them being companionship. I often ask myself “am I asking for too much?” But we must remember “What may seem simple to you may not be as simple to someone else”. This is what makes it difficult for some of us to find our “true mate”! But I hear patience is a virtue and so I wait !!!!!

Well enough of me on my soapbox. My weekend started and ended well…now back onto my daily grind…

I had a great workout at the gym and a GREAT 55 min Massage from my favorite masseuse Mona! I have places to go and people to see next weekend so…until the next Adventure…Smooches!

Food 4 Thought...



Ok so I was spending quality time with my family on Mother's Day and I ended up in a conversation with my brother-in-law regarding the ever so popular topic - have I met any new guys recently? I explained that after that last incident I haven't been on a date since. What was interesting is that he is the one that told me “Sis don’t settle, just be patient and he will come”. Mind you my brother-in-law is younger than me however knows what he wants based on his personal life experiences as a youth growing up in a single parent household. I was happy to hear his support of me and his encouragement to “keep my head up” –Tupac. Coincidentally, a light bulb came on, Steve Harvey is right!  "We as women" have to assess (listen to what he’s telling you) whether a man is where HE wants to be in life and then only HE can give his ALL to a relationship with US. Right now I can honestly say that I'm not meeting any "worthy" candidates. Don’t get me wrong, I believe there are “good men” (somewhere) out there.

• I could blame it on the fact that I reside in LA (too easy). 
• I could say that the quality of men available left to choose from has deteriorated (Somewhat true).
• I could say that I'm not “mingling” in the right places or at the right times (I’m out every other weekend). But overall those different functions can add up to - Expensive!
• I go to church?? Maybe I should attend 11am service instead of 9am (Lol).

Who knows? It could be all of the above or none of the above.

Seeing that I don’t have all the answers I’ve made it a point to ALWAYS Self Reflect! I'm not perfect and I'm not looking for perfect. I know we all have our “preferences” and “deal breakers” but people always like to comment that my “expectations” may be too high. I don’t think people should make generalizing statements, as such, until they’ve actually asked me what I am looking for. My only response to this statement is “I’ve met guys in the past who have met my expectations and I know he exists and therefore I refuse to settle!” Unfortunately, I was not “The One” for them or the “timing” was not right. I’ve heard that there are some who are in your life for a season and those who are in your life for a reason! Well whatever the reason is I guess it’s not my season yet! For those of you who are interested “Spring is my favorite season”, so I guess until 2012 I have the right to “act a fool and be Single in this upcoming scorching Hott season - Summer” until I meet my “match” ;)

P.S. - Not long ago I was talking to a guy friend of mine and it appears that he is having the same dilemma with females (Whaaat, say it isn’t so). Sometimes the best things are right in front of you (sounds like I need to listen to my own advice J)

Just thought I’d share what was on my heart…until next time…Smooches…SingleNFabulous

A Night Out with The Girls...

Hi Beautiful People,

I’ve always been told that the best way to meet people is to get out and go places. So I try to go everywhere I can without going “broke” at the same time. So of course on my three day weekend I had plenty of things to do!

Prince Concert on Saturday night –

A night out with the Girls! I was not thoroughly convinced that I should go to the Prince concert partially because I just wasn’t motivated. But the invitation from one of my girl friends (Keisha) was motivation enough! I had no plans for the night and I knew going out with the girls would be good for me and fun. I signed up to go see Prince making a rare appearance at the Great Western Forum in Inglewood. I guess I can’t complain about a concert that only cost $25. In my opinion, the best part of the night was hanging with the girls! Don’t get me wrong, the concert was great but I expected Prince to play more “classic” hits. However, the multiple encores were really cool and the man had us out til midnight. I’ve never been at a concert that kept going, and going, and going….Lol. The Forum was packed with all of Prince’s fans, however no love connection but that’s okay because that wasn’t my focus that night.

Pinky’s Napps Snapps and Curls Beauty and Barber Parlor- Play at Acme Theatre on Sunday Night-

My Girlfriend Taunya invited me out to this play in support of another friend. I almost missed the play due to my deteriorating memory (that’s a whole other storyJ). But everything worked itself out. Although I read the title of the play weeks ago I completely forgot about it and did not know what to expect! I can honestly report back to the people that the play was funny. Sidebar- I strongly encourage our community to go out and support our friends and family with local talent because you never know what hidden talents they possess. I loved the ambience at Amalfi Restaurant (next door to the theatre). This place had good food and great customer service. I think the bartender had a “crush” on us! I enjoyed a delicious late night snack: crab cakes and mac & cheese and relaxed with great company! Once again, no love connection but it’s okay because I enjoyed myself!

Monday – Relax at home and attempt to do some “work” at home on my “temperamental PC”. Maybe I can date a Geek Squad guy from Best Buy so he can fix my computer for free ;) Just a thought!

Until next time….the Adventures will continue…Smooches!