Trust Your Gut

Hi Beautiful People,

I am happy to report that 2016 has gotten off to a good start for me:
*I made my Vision Board
*I made My Goals Plan
*I bought 2 books to increase my knowledge and help keep me motivated and accountable.
*...and I'm doing a 30 Day Detox plan by JJ Smith that is educating me on how to eat healthier, the benefits of Green Smoothies and breaks down what supplements to take that is good for the body.

Anywho...Lets get to the good stuff...

This past 3 day weekend was in celebration of  Martin Luther King, Jr. and it just so happened that I made plans to go out Friday and Sunday, so I could get out to Mix & Mingle.

2 Guys & A Girl...Out on Friday night.
The original plan was to meet some friends at an HBCU Social Event at H.O.M.E. Restaurant but my guy friends gave me a heads up that the crowd was "too young" and it was too crowded. I should have known... So the guys made the executive decision to find another local hangout spot nearby. I was in it to win it, hair done, make up done and cute!

My first thought when writing this blog was, in hindsight, I should have snap chatted (singlenfabla)some of my Friday night adventures but #1- I forgot (because I was having such a good time!) and #2- our destination ended up being a more intimate setting than originally planned Nic's Beverly Hills. Also, I wanted to be respectful of the men who were accompanying me for the night. I believe there is a time and a place for everything and this setting just wasn't the appropriate place for it. Also, I don't want to get to the point where I'm so consumed in putting everything on social media that I don't enjoy myself or the people I'm with.

While hanging out with 2 "great guys" (one married, one single) they gave me great advice and suggestions on what I should do differently when in pursuit of "the One"! I learned that my social circle needs to expand, I need to get out more and be more strategic on when I make plans to go somewhere. Reflect on what my purpose is...and what drives me?! Take the time to volunteer and give back to a cause that I have a passion for. As these things fall into place eventually I will meet someone! And when I do meet someone I must define my relationship with them. Are we just friends, dating or exclusive?? No grey areas I'm too old for that shit (been there done that)! Great conversation with Great people will always be PRICELESS!

I had a good time hanging out with the guys, as they were very respectful and chivalrous in my

presence. The closest I got to meeting someone that night was a "sugar daddy" named R.E. Martin (cool white guy) from New York who kept me laughing and "clutching my pearls" with his crass humor. If you don't know what "crass" means look it up, LOL.

Saturday was cool and I focused on running my errands and having a relaxing day.

Sunday Day Party @ Tiffany's On Vine

I saw a last minute post of a friend of mine having her Birthday Celebration at this venue on Sunday. So I called my girl Rhonda because we had just talked about hanging out together so we could catch up on whose personal life sucks the worst, lol (I think I won). So we met up at the day party, gave Jamara some Birthday love and we hung out at the bar. This venue seemed like a pretty cool spot but what we didn't know is that the real fun didn't start until the sun set (we arrived at about 3pm) but we know better for next time! Unfortunately we didn't see a whole lot of "eye candy" and we didn't get a chance to strike up a conversation with any interesting guys. So we left around 6pm, but not before somebodies "uncle" sent Rhonda a drink at the bar! (insert emoji with the eyes wide open, lol) It was a nice gesture but he was out of place and wasn't exactly in our age category. Rhonda was polite and acknowledged him and then we disappeared quick fast and in a hurry. Honestly we were just happy to get out the house and hang out for a couple of hours. The DJ was real cool though and I think we will plan to go back to check it out again in a few weeks! But right now our mission is to find some other popular places we can go to see what shenanigans we can get ourselves into!

Now technically I was off on Monday because of the Holiday and I sort of made plans to meet this guy I met online later that evening.

Rewind - About 2 weeks ago I signed up for online dating on the OKcupid website on a whim because one of my co-workers told me that they match you based on the questions you answer. So that actually sounded appealing to me because I wanted to weed through the ones that weren't compatible. What I didn't know is that those fools who don't even match the criteria I specified were still going to attempt to make contact with me even though they weren't in the 80% percentile. Well I met one guy that appeared to have a good job, his own place, Lakers and 49ers fan (he gets a pass on the football team), and one child (teenager). I looked at his pictures and he was "aight". He messaged me online and we had a decent conversation. So I told myself give him a chance and give him the number and see if he's as cool on the phone as he is when typing a message. Uhhhh Not So Much! The conversation was like playing 20 Questions and it felt forced. Unfortunately I could tell over the phone he had no "SWAG"! So now I'm annoyed.

I knew I should have "trusted my gut" and stuck to what I know and like and that's meeting people in person! The purpose is to figure out if there is any instant chemistry, does the conversation just flow, are we compatible. I get none of these vibes from this man over the phone. But once again, I'm trying not to be mean but give him a chance so...

Fast Forward - I made plans to meet up with him on Monday evening because I thought my day was going to be uneventful. But that was wishful thinking and so I had to cancel, however I did reschedule for Friday evening. But at this point I'm just dreading it. Now I have to deal with daily text messages I have no interest in answering and getting pictures that I didn't ask for.

Wish Me Luck (or Pray 4 Me)...

I will definitely have to update my peeps on what happens Friday night...don't worry I'll let him down easy, lol (or maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised, who knows).

More SingleNFabulous Shenanigans to come in 2016...Stay Tuned...

Smooches!

A Year in Review...My 2015

Hi Beautiful People,

My sad pathetic ass is currently sitting in front of my television watching Mission: Impossible Rogue Nation because I don't have shit to do this New Year's Eve! I've also been dealing with migraines for the past 2 days so even if I did have plans I wouldn't be able to enjoy them anyway...Yeah this sucks! But I didn't want to go into the New Year without writing to you guys one more time, so I decided to write this Blog entry to close out the end of 2015.

Do I want to throw myself a pity party YES. Why you ask? Because 2015 did not go the way I planned it and I'm pissed.


But truthfully I'm really just disappointed in myself because I didn't have a plan and therefore I had nothing tangible to help hold myself accountable. It's very hard to make adjustments to how you normally do things when you're use to doing them a certain way. Meaning...I'm a creature of habit and therefore not a fan of change especially when I don't have what I believe to be  "expert knowledge" on how to successfully make a change. But this doesn't mean I shouldn't keep trying. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. So I will be making some changes next year!!



Maybe it's just me but I think 2015 flew by this year. Some good things happened and some not so good things happened but that's life!


Did I meet my weight loss Goals this year... No
Did I meet my future spouse this year... No
Did I meet my Blog goals this year... No

But Am I going to Quit... NO
I just have to make some adjustments and figure out what works best for Me!

So I'm going to leave you with a few Inspirational Quotes to start the New Year off Right!



Thanks to All my SinglenFab Followers for riding with me in 2015! It's occurred to me that some of us don't either have the time or don't make the time to sit down and read but you guys continue to support me through my journey of Shenanigans.

Here's to a FUN & FABULOUS 2016!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous will only Get Better Next Year...

Smooches

10 Assumptions Men make About Single Women in L. A. - Finding Bae!

Hi Beautiful People,

There was a contest (that I entered and didn't win) that motivated me to write this Blog. Despite my disappointment I think it turned out pretty funny but I'd rather hear your thoughts (male and female alike)! So grab a drink and tell me what you think. Feel free to share it with your friends too, Enjoy!

Being a single woman in L.A. is not all it’s cracked up to be. As this city is considered THE most popular city on the West Coast this can be a blessing and a curse, from the horrendous traffic to the influx of new people moving here to become #instafamous. As a result, the competition to get a Husband is Brutal. Here’s just a small taste of what I experience while living in Los Angeles.

The $hit I have to go through being Single in L.A.

10 Assumptions Men make About Single Women in L. A. - Finding Bae!

1. We are intimidating because we have our “$hit” together!
Yes I am highly educated and I am focused on my career. I don’t waste my time on lazy men because a man with goals and ambition is SEXY. But I also need you to be able to step up to the plate and ask a girl out. I don’t bite, unless you want me too (wink).

2. You assume that we are “bougie” because you watch Reality TV and think that we are all “Hollywood”.
 I’m an original L.A. girl and I love my city but trying to get a date out here is like “pulling teeth”. It doesn’t help that women outnumber men 10 to 1 (I’m just making those numbers up but that’s really what it feels like). Must we all fight over the same man?

3. Just because we have expectations you assume that our standards are “too high”.
No it means your standards are too low. Can’t a girl have SOME requirements?? I’m not saying he has to make 6 figures, be 6 feet tall and have 6 acres of land. But you can’t live with your mama, have 6 kids and make $6 an hour. I’m just saying!

4. You assume that something is “wrong” with us because we’re single
Why do I have to be “crazy” because I don’t have a man. Why can’t I just be waiting patiently for my “partner-in-crime”. Now I might drive by your house in the middle of the night if you don’t call me back but that’s only because I thought we had a “connection”, LMAO!

5. You assume that we are just too damn Independent
I concur. I really think that it’s just that we’ve been single for soooooooo long that we are so use to doing everything by ourselves that we have trouble giving up this role and relying on someone who may or may not want the responsibility. I mean think about it…a man comes into your life says all the right things and then the next thing you know he’s become very comfortable on your couch watching the NFL network, remote in one hand and balls in the other, then complains when you ask him to take out the trash. Which brings me to my next issue…

6. You assume we don’t cook.
This is simply not true. Times have changed. No I don’t cook 3 course meals like your mom did when you were growing up, after working a 12 hour day. But I can prep your meals on Sunday and you can have leftovers all week, Lol. Here’s an idea – Why don’t you cook and have a delicious meal ready when I come home (Ha! I think I’m asking too much)

7. You think you won’t be a priority in our lives.
Whaaaaat ??? I don’t know a woman who doesn’t want a MAN in her life.  We just want to make sure you are ready to make the commitment. I feel like the man waits until he's almost 40 years old before he finally decides okay I’ve played the field enough and I’m ready to settle down. Really??? My eggs have damn near dried up and my biological clock is hanging on for dear life. Then you wonder why we act like we don’t need you (refer back to #5).

8. You assume we have commitment issues…
But it's really "you" who has the commitment phobia. You want all the "wifey" perks but no investment. You want us to cook, clean, satisfy you BUT we just friends.

9. You are intimidated by us and assume we have a man.
This is actually more common than you think! I've noticed that men rarely approach me when I'm out with my girlfriends or even when I'm alone. I mean you can be low key stalking me and I wouldn't know it. I need a man to see me and NOT be intimidated but confident enough to make his move (put in the work)...OR I will chew you up and spit you out.

Which brings me to my last and Final point...

#10 What happened to "courting"? Do you even know what that is?? Did "chivalry" commit suicide??? Women like to be pursued, show your interest in her (introduce yourself, don’t send a friend to do it), pick up the phone and call her (yes I mean have an actual phone conversation), ask her out on a date (going to the movies is not a first date), meet her at the restaurant (no you can't come to my place I don't know you like that), pay for a meal, meet for happy hour or go have coffee (chivalry is not dead).

Now don't get me wrong I'm not into male bashing or breaking Guy Code because I love MEN. This is just a guideline for those guys who are guilty of either ONE or ALL of the above.

P.S. As a woman I am not completely oblivious to the fact that “us women” have our own issues too! BUT this isn't about us so come up with your own damn list about women who are “single & crazy” (Smile)

Until Next time...The Adventures of SingleNFabulous Must Go On!

Smooches

FINALLY, I'm going on a Date....Or So I Thought ??

Hi Beautiful People,

I have truly missed you guys!

Let me be honest...like you know me to be anything BUT, Lol.

I really wish I had Singlenfab Adventures every weekend that consisted of fun and elaborate stories to tell you but LIFE just does not happen that way. I'm sure you already know this. One weekend I might be in the streets "turnt up" and then the next weekend I'm just chillin' with the Fam Bam. It's during these normal times in my life that I'm hoping to meet someone "organically". Translation...by complete accident!

So when something does go down I get really excited because My Blog is my outlet and I love sharing and hearing your opinions on my Single Life Shenanigans (SLS, lol)!

So 2 weekends ago my sister invited me to be her plus 1 at the birthday party of three Beautiful Ladies she knew: Yvette, Nikki & Kya. The gentleman in the picture is Anthony from New Orleans and his first time in Cali. He was a total sweetheart and had that southern hospitality. So a selfie was mandatory when you meet good people!

As my sister and I were mixing and mingling we grabbed a drink from the open bar and posted up at a table. This "other" random guy introduced himself and swore up and down he knew both of us from back in the day. We went through all the formalities trying to figure it out: what high school did you go to, what year did you graduate, do you know so and so, etc. Through this conversation I thought he had a cool personality and was funny. In summary he is a grown ass man (my age) with a good job (lol). When we were ready to leave the party I had a quick thought that it would be a good idea to keep in touch with him because he's one of those guys that's cool to hang out with so I told him to "take my number down". There might have been a little flirting before I left that motivated me to give him my number.

Sidebar - Aren't you proud of me I actually took the initiative.

#1 - he had good conversation and a cool personality and this is what got him the number.

#2 - he told me he was going to call me that night (not text me). I had to shut that down real quick I told him it was already 1 am so I asked him to call me tomorrow. He said he'd text me to see when was a good time we would have a conversation. I agreed.

The next day he text me. I told him I would call him as soon as I got to the house. I called back within 30 minutes. We stayed on the phone for at least 1.5 hours. During this time I found out he has been married twice and has a total of 4 kids and he recently just got out of a relationship he was in for 4 years.

WTH ??? My first thought was - Really Lord, this is what you send me?!

He just went from my #1 Draft pick, straight to the Bench!

Now I've been accused of having "high" standards but damn am I suppose to be okay with all this information I just found out. Are these my #relationshipgoals ?? I haven't even asked any detailed personal questions because we just met but I'm not sure if I really want to know!

But I've also been told that I have a tendency to shut 'em down real quick. So shoot me for knowing what I want! I said okay let me give him a shot I'm open to going on a date. As we spoke on the phone he asked me when we could go out and I said next weekend. He seemed to be cool with that answer. We texted throughout the week and then I didn't speak with him for a couple of days. I think around Thursday I texted him to ask if he wanted to meet me at The Game Sports Bar and Grill in Inglewood to watch the 49er vs Giants game since I knew he was a football fan and I wanted to watch my Fantasy Football Team rack up some points. He was okay with it but said he had to go to work at 7 pm. So with the game starting at 5 pm that only gave us about 1.5 hours to converse in person and I was okay with that. Sunday afternoon comes and I'm running late leaving my 3 pm appointment. I knew I needed to get to the GS early to get a seat so I text him to let him know I was on my way.

He text back - Hey lady, I'm not going to be able to make it, I had a rough night at work and have to be back their tonight, I will catch up with you another time.

We sent a few more texts back and forth and the conversation ended and I no longer had a DATE!

Now don't get me wrong I completely understand when someone has a rough night at work. I've worked the "night shift" before so I know what it's like to need to sleep in or recuperate from the night before.

BUT...what I'm trying to figure out is when were you going to tell me you needed to cancel our date???? There was no courtesy call or text prior to me reaching out first. What if I would have just showed up at the GS without talking to him? Would I have just been sitting there waiting on a man who was not coming? Would he have waited to the last minute to tell me? or Not at all? I don't know.

But what I do know is that I'm not making any effort to reach out to him again. I was proud of myself for giving him the number and initiating plans to meet up...only to be let down. I'm not jumping to conclusions and cutting him off (yet) and I will give him a chance to redeem himself but if he wants to see me it's on him now.

As you can see the Frustration is Real

and so the Adventures of SingleNFabulous MUST go on...

Smooches!

Labor Day Weekend Fun in the Sun!

Hey Beautiful People,

Finally the 3 Day Weekend is here! My sister and I have been looking forward to going on this getaway to Las Vegas during the Labor Day Weekend for months as it was waaaaay overdue. I purposefully didn't travel anywhere or engage in too many extracurricular activities because I knew I wanted to turn up during the Holiday Weekend. But of course everything didn't go as planned which, for me, is never a good thing...

The original plan was for my brothers Bruce & Davion to go but someone's "evil" work schedule got in the way, booooo!
Then my younger sister Vanessa and her husband Q were suppose to go but unforseen circumstances happened that prevented them from going, boooo! Really???
I was so hurt that none of my peeps were going because I planned this End of the Summer trip for ALL of US!!

Then the icing on the cake, we didn't have a dog sitter!!! Arrrrgh. I really didn't want to leave my "child with four paws" in a pet hotel in L.A. while I partied it up in Las Vegas. So guess what...ROAD TRIP.... Princess Bailey was coming with us! Did I think this through, probably not, but at this point all my other pre-planning had went to shit, so we might as well wing it!

My sis and I rented a car to drive up to Las Vegas on Saturday morning because we were taking our Mom to the Patti LaBelle concert the night before. We had no idea that we weren't going to go to bed until 2am (last minute packing of course). So of course we didn't leave on time in the morning but we finally got on the road and made one stop in Barstow and another at State Line so Bailey could handle her business (Oh and us too)! The traffic wasn't too bad and we arrived in about 4 hours. I would have preferred to have gotten there sooner but that didn't happen, oh well.

Sidebar - We already had a one way ticket to fly back because we were not driving back Monday on the 15 freeway in that holiday traffic!

It's Saturday afternoon and the first order of business check into the SLS Hotel Las Vegas, turn in the rental car and go SHOPPING! Bailey had a great time and got lots of attention. People love her...that's what happens when you are the cutest dog on the planet, Lol. Bailey was also a good luck charm when we were playing on the Wheel of Fortune slot machines. Her Auntie Kee hit the jackpot twice and I hit it once. Driving in that heat took a lot out of all of us so once we 'got rich quick', lol, it was time to cash out and call it a night.

My HartBeat Girls from last year (Nikki, Angie, Abike, & cousin Kym) were in Vegas too, turnt up for the Drake concert but we didn't get a chance to meet up and hangout (sad face).

Saturday night was RUFF! Who knew Bailey was going to wake up in the middle of the night and bark at every person who walks through the hallway on our floor...midnight, 2am, 4am, etc! Oh my goodness, Keesha and I got No Sleep!  Guess who was on the phone Sunday morning calling the PetSmart Pets Hotel at 8:30am trying to get someone an overnight "doggie suite". The store supervisor Mason took good care of us and understood our Labor Day weekend dilemma. He accommodated our last minute reservation and made sure Miss Bailey got the royal treatment.

Keesha and I made it back to the SLS in time to secure our Daybed at the Foxtail pool. We had the best hostesses - Emily & Joey. I text "the birthday boy" and he came down to celebrate with us at the daybed. Good company, breakfast, lunch and drinks by the pool who could ask for anything more...

A curve ball... in walks in a bunch of broke men who aren't on our level and have no problem taking advantage of what we have to offer!

Unfortunately we were put into a situation that none of us saw coming. There were 4 guys who came to our daybed. Two of them "the birthday boy" knew, the other two he didn't know. The birthday boy asks if one of the guys can join us as he was celebrating his birthday too and he was going to "put in" on the day bed, but then says I don't know what the other guys are going to do. We said cool but then come to find out "put in" on the daybed really meant I'm going to get comfortable in your space and make a "donation" to the daybed, Really?? The others guys left briefly to go get their own food and drinks but then brought it back to our area so they could sit down. WTH? My boy should have known that if you invite one you are inviting them all. It started off cool having them there but then little things started happening. At one point one of the guys tried to get real comfortable on the day bed and he had to be told to relocate his ass to the edge of the bed where he belonged. Then another time one of the guys decided to bring two females to sit on our daybed. I checked him real quick and let him know: "I don't know where you got them from but you can take them right back where you found them". In my mind I'm thinking: You don't have a daybed WE do!! Be grateful you are even allowed to sit over here. See this is why people think Black women are mean and have an attitude. What people don't know is the position you put us in that made us go off in the first place! Well now you know. Then that same fool that brought the girls to our daybed decided to try and make himself a drink from someone else's bottle service. Are you frickin kidding me??? His dumb ass got caught and kicked out of the Foxtail and his boys didn't even move a muscle.

At this point my ass was drinking and having a good time. Flirting with the cute boys in the pool who said they loved my "classic" one piece DOPE bathing suit. After bouncing around in the pool to some great music I got a little tipsy. Unfortunately it was off of a drink I shouldn't have had. It was a pitcher of margarita that someone else ordered and I had no idea what the ingredients were. Whatever it was didn't mix with what I had already been sippin on. As a result, I passed out on the bed and missed Fetty Wap's performance. Of course my sis Kee had to get some incriminating photos of me and rub it in later. When I came too, lol, Lil Wayne was on the stage. I looked around and one of those guys had another female at our daybed. I looked at Keesha and she told me it was okay and she gave him a pass because it was the end of the day. But once again in my mind I'm thinking you didn't put in on this, what makes you think this is okay?  

My main issue is this, none of these guys (except the one) even tried to contribute to the daybed that they crashed...that's just RUDE! At the end of the night my sister made a very good point, "If they don't already have a daybed in our area they can't hang with us". NO NEW FRIENDS!

Later that night we chilled, I recuperated and we got a decent nights rest, Lol. But it still wasn't the same because Bailey wasn't with us. 

Monday morning we had car service pick us up, then we picked up Princess Bailey #spoiledpup and then off to the airport we went. It was Bailey's first time in the cabin of a plane and she did an excellent job.

Overall we had a good time! Our mini vacation was not long enough (it never is) but we're grateful we were able to go and it was a relaxing but Fun getaway.

After all of that you would think I would have at least met some potential candidates...but no such luck!

So the Adventures of SingleNFabulous Must Go On!

Smooches

P.S. I am on snapchat: @singlenfabla but forgive me for not utilizing it as often as I should,

 I'm still getting used to it! LOL

Dating...A Lost Art Form

Hey Beautiful People,

I know it's not just me and I know dating still happens but some of the $hit I have to go through is just ridiculous....hence the purpose of my Blog. To give you the inside details on what I go through as a single woman residing in L.A.

In the last 2 weeks I've had to tell 2 guys "I accept invitations to go on dates". But my question is...why do I have to tell you this! Why don't you just ask me out?

Typically my "guy friends" fall in two categories: we are either dating or really good friends (with no benefits) that I've known for a while. So if you are texting me randomly saying "hello" I will say "hello" back. I don't have long conversations via text so my response is going to be short and to the point. But then my next question is "are you texting me for a purpose or did I just cross your mind?"

Now let me be clear...I don't have a bunch of rules I go by but I do have some “old school” expectations. I'm open to almost anything but I need the person I'm "dating" to be on the same page. I know guys think differently than women and so I try not to make things too complicated. Tell me what you want and we can make it happen. However, what I don't like is if you think you’re coming over to my house to hang out??? That position is EARNED and is a privilege. I need to know you very well in order for me to let you into my personal space!

So singlenfab followers let me give you two different scenarios and you tell me what you think!

First an "old boo" starts sending me random text messages. Now I could have been rude and responded like "what do you want" but I didn't, so I entertained the back and forth correspondence. Honestly peeps there really was no substance to this mini conversation so I had no desire to keep the communication going. Then it just ended. What was the point?

I recently gave him the opportunity to come see me at a location that was closest to him and he asked me all the details, when and where, and then doesn't show up. What was the point of you asking?

Another time he hinted that he wanted to see me and so I told him "I go out on dates when asked". But low key I knew he was just trying to get me to hang out at his house. I don't want to hang out at your house (unless you offer to cook dinner)...we not cool like that anymore! I need to get to know the person you are now. Going on a couple of dates isn't going to kill you and they don't always have to involve spending money. I have yet to get a response out of him. Don't bother me unless there is a method to your madness. You need to have an objective or goal when it involves ME. I'm not one to waste my time because my time is valuable. Hey, lets face it I'm not getting any younger!

Then last night I'm having a conversation with my neighbor and he tells me "I'm full of shit" because I haven't given him the time of day (we have that kind of relationship). Of course my response is "Ask me out and you might get somewhere. Hanging out in your driveway ‘talking shit’ doesn’t count”. He’s cool and all but I really don't know him or what he wants out of life. The brief encounters we've had has led me to believe that he's a nice guy so I'd say yes to going out with him...but he'd actually have to ask me in order for that to happen! Hello?!

Sidebar - Now he may have gotten the wrong impression in the past that I wasn't that into him: In a text message he said, "you must not be feeling me" All I said was "you cool". His response, "Wow cool I'll take that I guess, lol." 
But once again I really don't know him well we just joke around and he flirts with me when I see him outside.

I don't know what's with men today...

Are you worried you are wasting your money on a date?

Do you not want to work for it?

Do you even know what the hell "courting" or "dating" is?

This is so frustrating. It is much easier for me to either relax at home in my nice comfy bed or just go out with the girls because it’s so much easier and NOT complicated.

As you can see Beautiful People nothing’s changed. I’m either dropping hints or telling them straight up what they need to do. I need a strong man that is confident in himself and comfortable in approaching a sista, having a conversation and asking her out. Is that too much to ask?? Or am I living too far in the past?? Or just meeting the wrong Men?!

So of course...

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous must go on…Smooches!

All White Day Party Fun!

Hi Beautiful People,

Life has been good and I've been making it a point to have a social life. Although there are plenty of days where I just want to be lazy, sometimes I have to force myself to put it together and go out. Take last weekend for example...my new hairstylist told me about this white party that was happening on Sunday at the Sheraton. I thought to myself I should go but I don't have anything in my closet that is white that I'm in love with! I'm still not happy about my weight and I'm not comfortable in my own skin.

Sidebar - Yes beautiful people I'm still struggling with this weight loss thing! I'm always trying new things so I will keep you posted.

So Sunday comes around and I'm minding my own business with no intention on going out and my boy Dana texts me a pic of this same All White Party!!! In my mind, I was like maybe this is the Hot Spot for the weekend, I guess I should go. Naturally I panicked, "Oh no I need an Outfit???"

So I had to call my "life line" and tell her my dilemma. My sister Vanessa saved my butt (once again) and picked out a top I could wear from her store www.thickchicboutique.com! Awwww shit, SOLD, that's all I needed. Once the outfit came together I got a boost of confidence! I broke out my Monika Chang braided stilettos and made it happen.

There were soooooo many people at this party. The lobby was crackin' and poolside was where the DJ was spinning on the 1s and 2s. My favorite live band DW3 was performing but you know my "fashionably late ass" missed the performance, SMH. I met my boy Dana up there and hung out with him and some really cool women. Thank goodness there were patio lounge chairs because I was not going to make it in those shoes. As I observed my surroundings I wasn't surprised that the women out numbered the men. Hence my other dilemma. I really didn't see any potential dating candidates except the occasional "Cat Daddy" that tried to Holla (lmao).  So I just drank my wine and grooved to the music. I had a good time regardless because I love day parties! I wish I could tell you something exciting happened but it didn't, LOL.

Fashion Police Violation - I just wish some of these older women knew a little something about how to keep it classy. There were way too many women exposing their breasts at this event. Has no one ever heard of a strapless bra or "pasties"?? I was low key offended. I know a bra might mess up your outfit but there are several different contraptions that man has created to help you camouflage your areola, I'm just saying!

Regardless I had a good time and I was happy to be out the house! Well you know how this works...since a sista didn't get any love at this party I have to keep the party going...elsewhere!

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