All Dressed Up with Nowhere to Go

Hey Beautiful People,

I'm soooooooo frustrated over my Memorial Day weekend.

I came off of a rough work week and my Saturday night ended with me taking someone's kid to foster care.... I needed a drink and my 2 step.

So I admit, I decided to try and go to an ALL White Party at the last minute because I didn't want to have a 3 day weekend to go to waste.

Unfortunately, I didn't go see my Stylist this week and my hair wasn't done because I was suppose to be going to the gym (i'm still working on that part :) So I was going to have to create a miracle with these blonde/brown tresses!

Sunday morning: I dragged my sister into this mess and convinced her WE needed to go out to celebrate the Weekend.

1st on my Agenda -  I found a dress at my favorite spot Philthy Ragz...where you can never go wrong!

Then, I hit up my homeboy and told him I was going to swing through to the Geisha House in Hollywood focused on having a good time because its been awhile.

Sunday Afternoon: My sis and I went to the mall looking for a white blazer for her and accessories.

Sunday night: Faces were "beat" as usual...and We were fashionably late as usual..what did you expect ;)

Outside the Geisha House, no line? (red flag)......Paid $20......Get inside and it's a small room with a crowd of people.....Really is this it? So I found out there is another room in the Club but it just hasn't opened up yet. But after looking at this crowd of people it just wasn't "my cup of tea".

First of all, Why do you invite people to an All White Party and not enforce the dress code??? If this was the case I would have worn whatever the hell I had in the closet. Second, why are there always more girls then guys. Third, did you even look at who you invited to this party...any and everybody???

I'm sorry but I openly admit that I have bougie tendencies! If I wanted to go to a hood party I would have hit up a house party, there is a time and a place for everything. But when I'm dressed to the 9's and trying to find a husband I'm trying to go Upscale. Well apparently I wasn't in the right place because my sister and I left within the first 20 minutes as it wasn't our type of crowd. I was so disappointed and had to inform my homeboy that my expectations were much different that what he was promoting.  He normally has a good track record :(

We then tried to go to another destination Jon B Live at the Conga Room but I was told there were way too many women there too! Another failed mission.

We were All Dressed Up with nowhere to go...it was such a disappointment.

Home was my final destination.

I'm so sad that I wasn't in Las Vegas with my boys Dana and Kasey :( now THEY know how to party!

 

So now I'm planning my vacations way in advance! Labor Day weekend I will not be at work. My vacation is being planned now! For the upcoming Jazz Festivals I will be buying my tickets in advance! I will never deal with this situation again! I Definitely need to find another job ASAP, these hours are ruining my social life!

Speaking of Social Life.....I met a guy at the gas station by accident.

Okay here's the quick version:

I was working in Long Beach Friday night and was trying to get some gas.
He asked me for directions to Lakewood Mall, I helped him out

He mentioned he was from NY just bought a house in Signal Hill and just moved out here to play for the Clippers...whaaaaat?

Oh Lord, please don't set me up again!

I said he looked a little short to be playing for the Clippers (i was clownin)

He got the joke and stated he was a point guard (ummmmmmm hmmmmmm).

He mentioned he wanted to go shopping to pick up a few pieces from Gucci and Armani so I redirected him to South Coast Plaza.

He thanked me for taking the time out to help a brotha out and offered to take me to lunch.

We exchanged numbers... Not bad huh?.....he seemed cool.

I will keep you posted on any future activities with this one. I haven't confirmed the Clipper status yet so I will let you know when I obtain additional information. Seeing that the season is over he may be on the roster for 2013, we will see???

Until next time...The Adventures of Single and Fabulous must go on...Smooches!

Destination Wedding - Negril, Jamaica

Hey Beautiful people,

I tried to get this damn Resort Wi-fi to work without charging me astronomical prices so you could get an International Blog this week :) straight from Jamaica mon! But that didn't happen...so sorry...maybe next time!

Blogging in Jamaica

 Topic of the Day - Marriage

Although marriage is not the most popular pathway people have chosen to take in this day and time, I am proud to say I still believe in the "institution of marriage".

The reason for my position is simple: I know couple's who are happy and in a successful relationship.

Case in point - I am in Negril, Jamaica attending a "destination wedding" of a very loving couple (mid to late 20's) who appear to cherish each other and have made the commitment to spend their lives together. I was in Cancun 2 years ago attending another "destination wedding" of a Couple that was around my age (mid to late 30's). I can't help but to think that "true love" and "compassion" still exists and that special someone exists for each and every one of us...when the time is right.

I also have other positive examples in my life such as my parents, uncle's/aunt's and grandparents that have been in long term marriages and it appears to be working for them 30 plus years later. Seeing that this is the example my family has shown me regarding commitment it is only natural for me to seek out a committed relationship that will eventually lead to marriage.

All that being said, I am completely excited about being in Negril, Jamaica to attend a wedding and take a long overdue Jaication (Jamaica + Vacation :)!

1st stop - The Seawind Resort Hotel (1 night only), Greeted with a Rum punch and a cold towel...I can't complain. Live Jazz music and Jerk Chicken Dinner for $12, Delicious!

I loved relaxing at the outdoors Restaurant located by the water listening to the cover band sing all the greatest hits from...Nintey-four Seven, The Waaaaaaave! Lol

2nd stop - Couples Resort - Swept Away (3 nights)

Greeted by a glass of champagne and a cold towel...heeey now! Let the party begin! We meet up with the engaged couple and get the party started with the wedding guests by THE most gorgeous beach, woo woo!

Our girl Trisha made sure we stayed cute as she was on BGHW - Black Girl Hair Watch- from Friday to Saturday, while we were on the beach! Everyone knows the last thing a sista wants to do is get her hair wet. My twin and I had to make sure the hair did not get WET as it had to look good for the wedding Saturday! Afterwards all bets are off :)
Sidebar - Next time I go to Jamaica you best believe I'm braiding this hair up and jumping straight in that beautiful water! Don't' get it twisted I will be ready for all the water sports: snorkeling, wave runners/jet skiing and parasailing.

First on the Agenda - OMG! The Bob Marley shots on the beach...tasted like kerosene, it was no joke! I was good and tipsy for the rest of the night! The wedding was held in the Garden and it was Beautiful. The Dinner/Reception was on the beach and it was Gorgeous. The partying started on the beach and continued to the Resort Club. My ankles were hurting after all that dancing! I had a blast with the most coolest people ever!

Bob Marley Shots!

This was a stress free/relaxing vacation and I enjoyed every minute of it! Granted I should have slept with every cute Jamaican guy there (as there were a few) but I just wasn't feeling it! Sidebar - back in my college days I would have gotten it in! But at this point in my life I didn't' feel the need to re-enact Stella getting her groove back! If anything I was "envious" of all the "couples" (most married) that were present and attending the wedding. It's times like these where I wish I had a "spouse and/or significant other" when going to a Couples Resort.

Of Course...

Leave it to Resheda to attract the wrong kind of guy in another country! I briefly met this guy by accident in the Pasta Bar line during dinner. I wasn’t trying to create attention, he introduced himself to me. He was okay looking but appeared to be a little rough around the edges with lots of random tattoos and a chipped tooth. He introduced himself, said he eas from Chicago and has been watching me during most of the vacation (yellow flag - possible stalker). I ask him what he does for a living, he says he’s an “entrepreneur” (red flag – that’s not specific, that’s a general description). He asks for my phone number but states his phone doesn’t work in Jamaica (yellow flag – my phone works, what’s wrong with yours?) He says he’s willing to fly to see me in LA (red flag – you don’t know me, we just met! Hell I’m not thinking about flying out to see you, I’m thinking let’s have a few phone conversations and find out what we have in common). Needless to say he managed to write his phone number down on a piece of paper to give to me….too many yellow and red flags for me to even entertain the idea of a long distance relationship…okay maybe he just didn’t peak my interest. And the  beat goes on... :)

Sidebar - Just a Warning - never fly Spirit Airlines they are a total rip off! They get you by advertising a “cheap” airfare but then charge you for everything under the sun once you buy your ticket!

Overall, I had a great time…I enjoyed my Jaication and I wish it could have lasted longer but it’s back to REALITY!

Let’s see what future activities I can get into that can provoke some stimulating Blogging…

The Adventures of SinglenFabulous must continue…Smooches!

Text Msgs vs. A Real Conversation

Hey Beautiful people,

Kirk & Meagen's Bridal Shower @ the Malibu Winery

Sorry for the delay but I had to rewrite this Post because something happened and I lost everything. I could have swore I saved everything but here I am re-doing it, again!

Shout out to My girl Tanya - Major Must Havs blog for sending new Followers my way :) Thanks boo!

A few weeks ago I went to the Pet Expo with my twin sis and puppy Bailey. This Expo is in Orange County for three days and Friday is the only day they allow you to bring your pet. I thought it would be a great day to get out in the sun and let Bailey run around with her fellow four-legged friends. It turned out to be a beautiful day and everyone was so friendly and nice. While hanging out at this Event browsing all the different Vendors and the products they had for sale I ran into a nice looking guy! In the process of talking about the "product" he was trying to sell me he asked for my phone number, Cool.

Mistake #1-
He sends me a text message instead of taking the time to pick up the phone and have an actual conversation!

Granted we've had very few basic text conversations prior to what you are going to read below.

Here's how the TEXT conversation went on 4/22/12:

Him: You got a curfew tonight
Me: Nope

In my mind - what kind of question is that...I'm grown!

Him: Maybe we should link up and make out, lol.
Me: Lol, where u trying to meet up?

In my mind - he's playing right? "make-out?"

Him: I'm still in Costa Mesa
Me: Ok hit me up later

In my mind: call me when you are closer to L.A we can meet somewhere.

Him: So u down to make out?
Me: U doing too much, I don't know you MAN!

In my mind: He is serious??? Really?? I just met your ass!

Him: Lol

In my mind: You're laughing but you really want to know if meeting up with me is going to be worth your time...WOW.

It's sad how I'm able to tell you guys verbatim how this conversation goes via text message. What happened to "talking"??? This is a total turn off for me. It's like "conversations" have become Extinct - null and void. You can not truly get to know someone by sending a 2 to 4 long ass text messages!

You think I've heard from that fool since...Nope! He was cute but he already had an Agenda and knew what he wanted and ASSUMED I was going to give it to him... but that nucca don't even know ME! That's the problem, No one wants to have a conversation anymore to get to know someone. Well I;m sure we've all concluded that he wasn't THE ONE, Lol.

Ladies...I refuse to settle so I guess it's On to the Next One! I'd rather be by my damn self than have to deal with the BS!

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous must continue... so on to Negril, Jamaica for a Wedding. 

Let's see if Stella can get her Groove Back, lol. 

Well I know I'm bringing Sexy Back while I'm out there.... 

but I AM NOT bringing a JAMAICAN Back, Lmao!

Smooches 

Do I Look Like a Groupie Chick to You?

Hey Beautiful People,

Aren’t you proud of me? Back to Back Blogs, LOL.

I Love my New Hair Color! Thank you Tanya & Mimi

Get a comfortable chair and a glass of wine because this Blog is going to have you falling out your chair!

You know I had to update my people on what happened with the alleged “NFL athlete”! This Blog is a Part II: follow-up to "Sunday Night with Chico DeBarge".

For those of you who don’t know I “investigate” for a living and have 7 years experience at doing a damn good job. When I tell you I tried to Google this man and to no avail have I been able to provide confirmation that he is really an athlete! The reason why I want confirmation is because it goes to HIS credibility. Do not claim you are something you are not. If you are a Realtor/Broker, Business man/Owner, CEO, or a Retired Athlete/Coach…whatever the case maybe…then claim that!

Here’s the Scenario:

Sunday Night - Met at the Game Sports Bar/Lounge. He introduced himself and offered to buy me a drink. Proceeded to say he wanted to take me out to dinner, take me shopping and buy me a house!
(In my mind - Confusion set in…You don’t even know me!)

Monday night – I received 8 picture text messages containing pictures of HIM, his money, him holding his money and his blinged-out watch! (In my mind - I’m not impressed , so I ignore the text…why are you sending these pics to a perfect stranger you just met?)

Tuesday morning – I receive a phone call from this fool at 8am…he doesn’t leave a message. In my book if you don’t leave a message you didn’t call and it wasn’t important, BAM! (In my mind - Is he out his damn mind?! I am not thinking about HIM at 8 in the morning!)

Wednesday morning – I receive 2 back to back text messages from this man. 8 more picture text messages of this fool and then another 9 more picture text messages. Him and his house, him and his black Bentley, him and his white Mercedes Benz, him and his black Mercedes Benz, him on the beach, him in his sweat suit, him in a after 5 suit…Lord please make it stop! (In my mind – I’m irritated now…HE is out of control.)

We have yet to have an actual conversation and I have endured All of The Above!!!!

It is now time for me to respond to this madness. I’m pretty sure every person would have handled this situation differently (in their own way) but if you known ME, I’m not one to sugar coat anything. I’m going to give it to you straight, no chaser! In addition, at this point I feel insulted because I feel like he’s trying to buy/bribe me with his material possessions and in my mind his approach is unacceptable. You’ve heard that it’s the 1^st Impression that sets the tone, right?

I have to precede this story with a Disclaimer: Please note that this is just my opinion and perception of the situation. In no way does anyone have to agree with me! To follow is my "text conversation" with this man “verbatim” so that you can see how the conversation unfolds (I did not leave anything out as there was no need to, except for his fake identity, LOL). If I’m wrong I have no problem owning up to that and I’m always open to “constructive criticism” as I appreciate other people's perspective that are on the outside looking in. As I received great Comments on the last blog I wrote about “the man with no car who asked me to take him home after the date” (check the Blog Archives for that story J).

Please know that the conversation below contains “graphic language” LOL. So if you are easily offended by certain profanities…please STOP reading now!

For the rest of my SingleNFab Followers, “It’s about to Go Down!”:

Wednesday Afternoon: My first response to this man after he’s sent me a total of 25 picture messages (all via text):

ME: All these picture text messages are a "turn off". You need to come up with a better approach when courting a woman! I am not impressed with your material items.  Please delete my number.

HIM: Bitch I'm a millionaire NFL athlete stupid ho fuck I need to impress u for u confused.

(The Inglewood side of me came out at this point! I don't tolerate DISRESPECT!)

ME: Fuck u nigga if you all that why the hell you by yo damn self! Go to hell...an NFL player don't mean shit to ME! Go get yourself a groupie bitch, cuz I'm not the One!

HIM: Yes u are the one and I don't want a lady just a hot girl red bottom shoe diva

(I have officially diagnosed him Bi-Polar after this response!)

ME: (I ignored this last text and didn't respond)

Friday afternoon:

HIM: This is the NFL wide-receiver u met at GS. What size pants tops and shoes do u wear and do u prefer Louis vutton or Gucci handbags.

(Please note: Nothing is Free! He is going to want something in return and I ain't trying to give it, there is no Attraction whatsoever on my part). 

ME: Thank you for the offer but I'm only interested in finding my husband-to-be! I really hope you find a FUN female you can lavish with gifts that makes you happy with "no strings attached". Take care!

HIM: Husbands and wives don't grow on trees boo friendship then fellowship then engagement then marriage then romance keep up wit me I'm solid as a rock and over intelligent.

ME: I agree, but it is extremely clear to me that we both have a different way of pursuing the things we want!

HIM: Work wit me so that I can work with u towards a common goal be it marriage or whatever

ME: Not interested.

I hope this is the last I hear from this man. I’m soooo NOT interested in what he’s offering. We both would have known where each other stood if we would have just had that “initial conversation” that laid everything out on the table. In no way am I saying All men are like this and YES I am putting him on Blast as an Example of what NOT to do when trying to impress a female!

Thanks for listenening followers...I had to get that off my chest! ;)

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous MUST go on...especially if I have to continue to put up with this Tomfoolery! Smooches

Sunday Night...with Chico DeBarge

Hey Beautiful people,

I know I have a tendency to disappear but please know that I'm still here...these new work hours are no joke, this job is unpredictable and got me working like a slave! The difference is I'm not as stressed out as I was before but my personal life has suffered in the process. I didn't anticipate this part... LOL (so sad). But no worries, I'm working on getting it back. I have too many ideas, about my future, floating around in this head of mines! Sometimes you just have to identify what your inner strengths are and get around some creative people to help make things happen. I don't know how much longer I can work for someone else but what I do know is that I need to be patient and stand strong until I can obtain what it is I need to make things happen in my future.

Now that I've left my "soap box" I have to tell you that I was completely caught off guard when a friend of mines told me Chico DeBarge was going to be performing at Game Sports Bar, Restaurant and Lounge in LA. I know my boy isn't a platinum artist right now but I have a soft spot for Chico and his brother El so I couldn't help but go out and support him...you never know he might be making a comeback!

Chico DeBarge Live!

Got the hook up on a table right in the front and took some great pictures! The Game Sports Bar surprised me and had a great dinner special that was delicious - red snapper, jumbo shrimp, veggies, mashed potatoes and homemade peach cobbler. Moscato was the drink of the night and I was a very happy lady!

Once again "no potentials" tonight so needless to say I was a little disappointed. However, it was just my luck that I get an "alleged" NFL football player that looks like he's old enough to be my daddy's homeboy, dressed in a 3-piece suit with shiny shoes and a blinged out watch that costs more than my County salary for the year! I gave him the phone number because he initially mentioned he wanted to help me buy a house...or at least that's what I thought he said. Well the conversation quickly changed to... I just bought a house in Redondo Beach, I want to take you out to dinner, I want to take you shopping and I'm a football player. To avoid embarrassing this man too much I'm going to keep his "alleged" NFL team anonymous. Sidebar - You know I had to google this fool on my Blackberry to find out if his old ass had at least retired from an NFL team...but the jury is still out on this one. Don't get it twisted ladies, my goal is to school him that I am not easily impressed by all the things he says he can do for me and to tell him this should not be his approach when trying to ask a lady out! Oh I'm sorry, did I mention this fool pulled out a wad of cash to prove to me he could pay for whatever I wanted (can you say rubber-band man, lol). Lord it's sad that this is his approach. I don't know about anyone else but I am not a girl to be bought...besides I already told you he ain't cute (or maybe I didn't tell you that part), I refuse to settle people...he is NOT the one... I don't care how much money he has!!!!! Oh did I mention this fool sent me a text message of 8 pictures of himself holding a wad of money...REALLY....do I look like that chick?? Now if he was "Money Mayweather's" fine ass I might think twice :) ...but flashing your money is a real turn off for me...what happened to modesty?! Beautiful people I'm going to have to keep you posted on what happens with this fool...he is too old to be FLASHY...lord we gonna pray! Maybe he can introduce me to some Cute/Younger/Single football friends...then we can talk ;), LOL!

P.S. I'm so mad I didn't take a picture of my outfit that night because I was cute  that rainy Sunday night.

The Adventures of Single N Fabulous MUST go on...Smooches!

Birthday Shenanigans

Hey Beautiful people,

I'm so happy to report that the Birthday Festivities have finally passed...and We had a Blast!

Last minute birthday function planned at Zen Lounge in Hermosa Beach, thanks Taunya for the idea!

The Twins celebrated their Birthday in style, of course, in the "Owner's booth" with all our family and friends, thanks to our promoter Vince. Appetizers were cool, drinks were flowing and the music was cool...now the DJ could have been better but my twin sis Kee wasn't on the 1s and 2s (her iPod with all the classic hits) so we had to make it do what it do!

You know my Twin Sis and I had to represent in Philthy Ragz originals as I couldn't see myself celebrating our annual "grown and sexy" without the perfect ensemble. Please know that I caught hell from my Twin because she did not want to "go all out" however I have to say that my Kee pulls it together when it's crunch time! I loved her Sheik Punk Rock Kat Von D Fuschia Swag. Thanks Keesha for doing your sisters (Me and Nessa) make-up for the party, those faces were "beat".

Resheda, Vanessa and Keesha "The Patterson Women"

Unfortunately, I didn't see any "potentials" in the club that night but that's okay I had a good time with my people anyway. Shout out to all my friends that were able to come out and celebrate our birthday with us: fam bam - Vanessa and Courtney, brothers - Bruce and Davion, Nikole and Tai, Kirk and Meagan, Jose, Dana K., Keisha and Andre, Ashley, Samantha and friends, Caroline, Jamara, Patty, Bridget and her sister, and my girl Sharinna (whose also has a March birthday the day before the twins).

Birthday Fun - Part 2

March 20th is our actual birthdate and we had to go out to Crustacean's Restaurant in Beverly Hills with our college girl friend Devona who also had a birthday on March 12th. As expensive as that food was it was completely worth it...DELICIOUS...garlic noodles to die for! :)

I'm still on a mission so you know the Adventures of Single N Fabulous will continue...Smooches!

Puppy Recovery vs. Superbowl Weekend

Hey Beautiful people,

Thanks for my car booster seat granny!

Time for an update! Super Bowl 2012 has come and gone! My New York Jets weren’t playing so I only watched it for the cool commercials J. I originally had plans to go out with my twin sis but this plan failed miserably when we realized puppy Bailey had a #niptuckspay appointment the day before Super Bowl Sunday (my bad…). My closest friends know that Bailey is my “puppy child,” and since I don’t have any children… she’s spoiled rotten! My sis became “Auntie” (against her will J) and she cares for puppy just as much as I do. So after surgery, our poor puppy was down for the count and there was no way we were leaving her “home alone” while we go out to flirt and get tipsy. So my MOM hooked us up and packed up some Super Bowl snacks “to go"….Delicious. In addition, she hooked up her “grand puppy” with a new car booster seat, it’s so adorable and the best thing ever created…don’t judge me...safety first! Caring for my puppy is my responsibility and so I had to skip the SinglenFab social event of the weekend.

Although I have no particular social plans for the rest of February I am in the process of planning my "Birthday Shenanigans" for the month of March. My twin sis is always down for whatever! The challenge is planning around my work schedule and her work schedule!  I’m entertaining different ideas but haven’t made any definite decisions yet. Feel free to give your suggestions for Saturday/Sunday/Monday or Tuesday nights! I love lounges and cool dinner spots. I’m “boughetto” so think “classy but fun”!

I’m semi-ready for My Birthday Celebration:
*Birthday dress…. check….
 Birthday shoes….check….
 Birthday venue…HELP!

The Adventures of Single and Fabulous will continue…Smooches!