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Hey Beautiful People,

Aren’t you proud of me? Back to Back Blogs, LOL.

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Get a comfortable chair and a glass of wine because this Blog is going to have you falling out your chair!

You know I had to update my people on what happened with the alleged “NFL athlete”! This Blog is a Part II: follow-up to "Sunday Night with Chico DeBarge".

For those of you who don’t know I “investigate” for a living and have 7 years experience at doing a damn good job. When I tell you I tried to Google this man and to no avail have I been able to provide confirmation that he is really an athlete! The reason why I want confirmation is because it goes to HIS credibility. Do not claim you are something you are not. If you are a Realtor/Broker, Business man/Owner, CEO, or a Retired Athlete/Coach…whatever the case maybe…then claim that!

Here’s the Scenario:

Sunday Night - Met at the Game Sports Bar/Lounge. He introduced himself and offered to buy me a drink. Proceeded to say he wanted to take me out to dinner, take me shopping and buy me a house!
(In my mind - Confusion set in…You don’t even know me!)

Monday night – I received 8 picture text messages containing pictures of HIM, his money, him holding his money and his blinged-out watch! (In my mind - I’m not impressed , so I ignore the text…why are you sending these pics to a perfect stranger you just met?)

Tuesday morning – I receive a phone call from this fool at 8am…he doesn’t leave a message. In my book if you don’t leave a message you didn’t call and it wasn’t important, BAM! (In my mind - Is he out his damn mind?! I am not thinking about HIM at 8 in the morning!)

Wednesday morning – I receive 2 back to back text messages from this man. 8 more picture text messages of this fool and then another 9 more picture text messages. Him and his house, him and his black Bentley, him and his white Mercedes Benz, him and his black Mercedes Benz, him on the beach, him in his sweat suit, him in a after 5 suit…Lord please make it stop! (In my mind – I’m irritated now…HE is out of control.)

We have yet to have an actual conversation and I have endured All of The Above!!!!

It is now time for me to respond to this madness. I’m pretty sure every person would have handled this situation differently (in their own way) but if you known ME, I’m not one to sugar coat anything. I’m going to give it to you straight, no chaser! In addition, at this point I feel insulted because I feel like he’s trying to buy/bribe me with his material possessions and in my mind his approach is unacceptable. You’ve heard that it’s the 1^st Impression that sets the tone, right?

I have to precede this story with a Disclaimer: Please note that this is just my opinion and perception of the situation. In no way does anyone have to agree with me! To follow is my "text conversation" with this man “verbatim” so that you can see how the conversation unfolds (I did not leave anything out as there was no need to, except for his fake identity, LOL). If I’m wrong I have no problem owning up to that and I’m always open to “constructive criticism” as I appreciate other people's perspective that are on the outside looking in. As I received great Comments on the last blog I wrote about “the man with no car who asked me to take him home after the date” (check the Blog Archives for that story J).

Please know that the conversation below contains “graphic language” LOL. So if you are easily offended by certain profanities…please STOP reading now!

For the rest of my SingleNFab Followers, “It’s about to Go Down!”:

Wednesday Afternoon: My first response to this man after he’s sent me a total of 25 picture messages (all via text):

ME: All these picture text messages are a "turn off". You need to come up with a better approach when courting a woman! I am not impressed with your material items.  Please delete my number.

HIM: Bitch I'm a millionaire NFL athlete stupid ho fuck I need to impress u for u confused.

(The Inglewood side of me came out at this point! I don't tolerate DISRESPECT!)

ME: Fuck u nigga if you all that why the hell you by yo damn self! Go to hell...an NFL player don't mean shit to ME! Go get yourself a groupie bitch, cuz I'm not the One!

HIM: Yes u are the one and I don't want a lady just a hot girl red bottom shoe diva

(I have officially diagnosed him Bi-Polar after this response!)

ME: (I ignored this last text and didn't respond)

Friday afternoon:

HIM: This is the NFL wide-receiver u met at GS. What size pants tops and shoes do u wear and do u prefer Louis vutton or Gucci handbags.

(Please note: Nothing is Free! He is going to want something in return and I ain't trying to give it, there is no Attraction whatsoever on my part). 

ME: Thank you for the offer but I'm only interested in finding my husband-to-be! I really hope you find a FUN female you can lavish with gifts that makes you happy with "no strings attached". Take care!

HIM: Husbands and wives don't grow on trees boo friendship then fellowship then engagement then marriage then romance keep up wit me I'm solid as a rock and over intelligent.

ME: I agree, but it is extremely clear to me that we both have a different way of pursuing the things we want!

HIM: Work wit me so that I can work with u towards a common goal be it marriage or whatever

ME: Not interested.

I hope this is the last I hear from this man. I’m soooo NOT interested in what he’s offering. We both would have known where each other stood if we would have just had that “initial conversation” that laid everything out on the table. In no way am I saying All men are like this and YES I am putting him on Blast as an Example of what NOT to do when trying to impress a female!

Thanks for listenening followers...I had to get that off my chest! ;)

The Adventures of SingleNFabulous MUST go on...especially if I have to continue to put up with this Tomfoolery! Smooches

Sunday Night...with Chico DeBarge

Hey Beautiful people,

I know I have a tendency to disappear but please know that I'm still here...these new work hours are no joke, this job is unpredictable and got me working like a slave! The difference is I'm not as stressed out as I was before but my personal life has suffered in the process. I didn't anticipate this part... LOL (so sad). But no worries, I'm working on getting it back. I have too many ideas, about my future, floating around in this head of mines! Sometimes you just have to identify what your inner strengths are and get around some creative people to help make things happen. I don't know how much longer I can work for someone else but what I do know is that I need to be patient and stand strong until I can obtain what it is I need to make things happen in my future.

Now that I've left my "soap box" I have to tell you that I was completely caught off guard when a friend of mines told me Chico DeBarge was going to be performing at Game Sports Bar, Restaurant and Lounge in LA. I know my boy isn't a platinum artist right now but I have a soft spot for Chico and his brother El so I couldn't help but go out and support him...you never know he might be making a comeback!

Chico DeBarge Live!

Got the hook up on a table right in the front and took some great pictures! The Game Sports Bar surprised me and had a great dinner special that was delicious - red snapper, jumbo shrimp, veggies, mashed potatoes and homemade peach cobbler. Moscato was the drink of the night and I was a very happy lady!

Once again "no potentials" tonight so needless to say I was a little disappointed. However, it was just my luck that I get an "alleged" NFL football player that looks like he's old enough to be my daddy's homeboy, dressed in a 3-piece suit with shiny shoes and a blinged out watch that costs more than my County salary for the year! I gave him the phone number because he initially mentioned he wanted to help me buy a house...or at least that's what I thought he said. Well the conversation quickly changed to... I just bought a house in Redondo Beach, I want to take you out to dinner, I want to take you shopping and I'm a football player. To avoid embarrassing this man too much I'm going to keep his "alleged" NFL team anonymous. Sidebar - You know I had to google this fool on my Blackberry to find out if his old ass had at least retired from an NFL team...but the jury is still out on this one. Don't get it twisted ladies, my goal is to school him that I am not easily impressed by all the things he says he can do for me and to tell him this should not be his approach when trying to ask a lady out! Oh I'm sorry, did I mention this fool pulled out a wad of cash to prove to me he could pay for whatever I wanted (can you say rubber-band man, lol). Lord it's sad that this is his approach. I don't know about anyone else but I am not a girl to be bought...besides I already told you he ain't cute (or maybe I didn't tell you that part), I refuse to settle people...he is NOT the one... I don't care how much money he has!!!!! Oh did I mention this fool sent me a text message of 8 pictures of himself holding a wad of money...REALLY....do I look like that chick?? Now if he was "Money Mayweather's" fine ass I might think twice :) ...but flashing your money is a real turn off for me...what happened to modesty?! Beautiful people I'm going to have to keep you posted on what happens with this fool...he is too old to be FLASHY...lord we gonna pray! Maybe he can introduce me to some Cute/Younger/Single football friends...then we can talk ;), LOL!

P.S. I'm so mad I didn't take a picture of my outfit that night because I was cute  that rainy Sunday night.

The Adventures of Single N Fabulous MUST go on...Smooches!

Birthday Shenanigans

Hey Beautiful people,

I'm so happy to report that the Birthday Festivities have finally passed...and We had a Blast!

Last minute birthday function planned at Zen Lounge in Hermosa Beach, thanks Taunya for the idea!

The Twins celebrated their Birthday in style, of course, in the "Owner's booth" with all our family and friends, thanks to our promoter Vince. Appetizers were cool, drinks were flowing and the music was cool...now the DJ could have been better but my twin sis Kee wasn't on the 1s and 2s (her iPod with all the classic hits) so we had to make it do what it do!

You know my Twin Sis and I had to represent in Philthy Ragz originals as I couldn't see myself celebrating our annual "grown and sexy" without the perfect ensemble. Please know that I caught hell from my Twin because she did not want to "go all out" however I have to say that my Kee pulls it together when it's crunch time! I loved her Sheik Punk Rock Kat Von D Fuschia Swag. Thanks Keesha for doing your sisters (Me and Nessa) make-up for the party, those faces were "beat".

Resheda, Vanessa and Keesha "The Patterson Women"

Unfortunately, I didn't see any "potentials" in the club that night but that's okay I had a good time with my people anyway. Shout out to all my friends that were able to come out and celebrate our birthday with us: fam bam - Vanessa and Courtney, brothers - Bruce and Davion, Nikole and Tai, Kirk and Meagan, Jose, Dana K., Keisha and Andre, Ashley, Samantha and friends, Caroline, Jamara, Patty, Bridget and her sister, and my girl Sharinna (whose also has a March birthday the day before the twins).

Birthday Fun - Part 2

March 20th is our actual birthdate and we had to go out to Crustacean's Restaurant in Beverly Hills with our college girl friend Devona who also had a birthday on March 12th. As expensive as that food was it was completely worth it...DELICIOUS...garlic noodles to die for! :)

I'm still on a mission so you know the Adventures of Single N Fabulous will continue...Smooches!

Puppy Recovery vs. Superbowl Weekend

Hey Beautiful people,

Thanks for my car booster seat granny!

Time for an update! Super Bowl 2012 has come and gone! My New York Jets weren’t playing so I only watched it for the cool commercials J. I originally had plans to go out with my twin sis but this plan failed miserably when we realized puppy Bailey had a #niptuckspay appointment the day before Super Bowl Sunday (my bad…). My closest friends know that Bailey is my “puppy child,” and since I don’t have any children… she’s spoiled rotten! My sis became “Auntie” (against her will J) and she cares for puppy just as much as I do. So after surgery, our poor puppy was down for the count and there was no way we were leaving her “home alone” while we go out to flirt and get tipsy. So my MOM hooked us up and packed up some Super Bowl snacks “to go"….Delicious. In addition, she hooked up her “grand puppy” with a new car booster seat, it’s so adorable and the best thing ever created…don’t judge me...safety first! Caring for my puppy is my responsibility and so I had to skip the SinglenFab social event of the weekend.

Although I have no particular social plans for the rest of February I am in the process of planning my "Birthday Shenanigans" for the month of March. My twin sis is always down for whatever! The challenge is planning around my work schedule and her work schedule!  I’m entertaining different ideas but haven’t made any definite decisions yet. Feel free to give your suggestions for Saturday/Sunday/Monday or Tuesday nights! I love lounges and cool dinner spots. I’m “boughetto” so think “classy but fun”!

I’m semi-ready for My Birthday Celebration:
*Birthday dress…. check….
 Birthday shoes….check….
 Birthday venue…HELP!

The Adventures of Single and Fabulous will continue…Smooches!

A Black & White Affair…Happy Birthday Bruce!

Hey Beautiful people,

I have two Blog posts in one week…aren’t you proud of me! ;) Well I am happy to report that I had a great week!

I’m soooo excited to tell you about my Saturday night as I took off work to attend this event. My sister and I have been looking forward to this Elegant Birthday Celebration for months and it finally took place last night!

Welcome to “The Dirty 30’s” Bruce Elijah Gaines.

Resheda & Ricky Rozay, lol

To give you a brief history I met Bruce at Bally’s Fitness in hip hop class when he was in his mere 20’s. When I tell you he could “pop, lock and drop it” better than me I was floored and knew I was getting too old for this shit, lol. But as a result we became friends and he has been my younger brother from another mother ever since. Every year we celebrate our birthdays and it is mandatory that we attend each other’s events! For 2012, Bruce’s goal was to “Set It Off”. My sister and I received a tri-fold invitation in the mail that looked like someone was getting married, lol. We were instructed to RSVP and from the looks of the invite come with class and style to an address located in Beverly Hills.

Now, I love to dress up and attend a great party…therefore my mission was to get a dress that represented ME…and make my brother proud! One of many things my brother and I have in common is that we love to go shopping and we have great taste in clothes! I had a few boutique stores in mind but they HAD to meet 3 criteria’s: have the style of dress I’m looking for, have reasonable prices and be able to cover these thick thighs ;) My first stop was Philthy Ragz in Inglewood, CA. This husband and wife team made me feel comfortable and immediately provided me with several dresses, but only 1 met the criteria for the

Black and White Birthday theme.

Once I tried the dress on I was In Love and it was a done deal.

My little black dress!

Don’t sleep on this boutique shop I will be going back! I already had my blinged out stiletto shoes and now I have my dress! Now all I needed were accessories! Saturday I was on a mission…after going to Del Amo Mall with no luck and then South Bay Galleria it came down to the wire and the newly remodeled Forever 21 possessed the necklace and earrings perfect for my outfit!

Back out baby!

So I get home around 5pm and start panicking…maybe I’m doing too much…what if I’m overdressed…maybe I should try to wear something different, a little bit more casual…my sister tried to talk some sense into me but it didn’t work we started pulling items from my closet trying to put more casual outfits together... It didn’t work. I came full circle and decided… oh what the hell, I bought the dress I might as well wear it…it is sooo ME, I have to represent! Of course my sister gave me the "I told you so look...Now we are running late...Get dressed already!"

I love my stilettos!

My sister made our ensembles complete by “beating our faces” (aka – doing flawless make-up) and having us both wear fur coats!

Upon arriving at the venue Sfixio Restaurant in Beverly Hills we were greeted by paparazzi for Red Carpet photos, we were escorted to our VIP table upstairs on the balcony, the Birthday Man made his grand entrance in his internationally custom made Red pea coat with exaggerated lapels, we proceeded to enjoy a 4 course meal with music playing in the background and enjoyed his a delicious cake from Hansens.

Sidebar- Oh did I mention by brother has his MSW degree, is a hustla working 2 to 3 jobs and as a result was Ballin out of control for his birthday: He rented out the venue, the Dinner was included and there was an Open Bar! Winning!

Bruce's Delicious cake!

The event was FLAWLESS! It was my pleasure to be a special guest at

Bruce’s 30^th Birthday Celebration. Love you Brother!

Until next time…The Adventures of Single and Fabulous continue…Smooches!

Taco Tuesday...Finally!

Hey Beautiful People,

I finally got the chance to go to Taco Tuesday earlier this week.

We were celebrating my girl Bridget’s Birthday!

Sharinna on the left and Bridget on the right!

I got a text from my girl Sharinna saying meet up at the Savoy in Inglewood on Tuesday for 2 for 1 drink’s and $1 tacos from 6pm to 8pm. That sounded like a plan because I’ve been trying to get to Taco Tuesday ever since I started this new work schedule! Now everyone who knows me (and reads this blog) knows that I am not a fan of the Savoy. Sorry but it’s not my type of crowd, ya’ll know they a little bit Older up in that camp. But for a “special occasion” my friend’s birthday party I felt inclined to go! Besides what’s the worst that could happen…LOL. Well thank goodness nothing bad happened…..outside of 2 guys my daddy’s age trying to ask me to dance.

One reserved table was already taken care of but we needed a little bit more room for our Ego’s (because We Like To Party), so our boy Carl was able to work his “hood magic” (lol) and “steal” a table so that ALL the Ladies were able to sit together and enjoy the night.

Sidebar- every sitting area in the Savoy was “Reserved”. If you weren’t there for a party there was no place for a person to sit down, you were forced to stand L boo, not cool (it wasn’t like that before, when I last went ages ago:) but when there is a way to get over on the Inglewood locals who support your establishment so you can make an extra dolla??… (dripping sarcasm)…don’t be surprised. Okay so I got over that pet peeve quickly.

I have to give it to the Savoy: great old school music, delicious tacos and drinks for $5’s forced me to have a GOOD TIME! Now granted, someone was at home MAD at me because she was home babysitting my “puppy” but mama was trying to enjoy herself a little bit longer so we headed over to The Game Sports Bar and Grill, also in Inglewood, to switch it up. We all know I don’t get out much anymore so I was trying to take advantage of every minute!

Alright, Alright, Alriiiiiiight! Now this crowd was an improvement to my standards. Closer to my age, with some swag, real friendly and not afraid to compliment a sister. I only stayed for a brief period of time but I was impressed by the music, karaoke and nice looking guys. I look forward to going back to The GAME with one stipulation: We (the ladies) must get there right when Taco Tuesday- Happy Hour starts so we can get good seats, commence to flirt and shut that bad boy down! That includes my Adventures for Tuesday night but stay tuned...

Celebrating Bruce's Dirty 30^th Birthday this weekend…more  FUN to come!Until next time…

The Adventures Continue! Smooches

NYE 2012

Hi Beautiful people,

Happy New Year! 2012 is here and in full effect. Unfortunately, I was working on New Year’s Eve. However my co-worker and I were optimistic that it would be a slow night and we planned to go out afterwards.

I had two options: a short black dress with criss-cross back out or long maroon one shoulder dress with bling’d out open toe stilettos.

My new favorite pair of shoes...My Cinderella stilettos!

Of course the night was active and we were working hard. A lot of people didn’t show up for work (I can’t stand inconsiderate people) and we ended up working longer than we expected. My only alternative was to post Happy New Year on Facebook and head back to the office.

I still had hope and I wanted to think that maybe I could get out of the office by 1:30am dressed to the nine. So I brought  my “chosen” outfit and my packed tote bag into the office…Uh No. I found out my co-worker was still working on a more difficult case and both of us didn’t leave the office until 3:30am. No NYE celebration for us!

I sacrificed yesterday night only to be ready to celebrate NYE 2013 next year, as the holiday will fall on my “off days” J…. I had to turn this negative into a positive!

I’m sooo looking forward to this new year because there are several upcoming events I am preparing to attend and I am motivated to make some changes in my life. . I feel “So Fresh”! So naturally I need a new “Look” to match my new attitude. New hairdo…coming soon ;)

I see nothing but positive things in my future so let the Fun begin!

Stay tuned as The Adventures continue….Smooches!