Everything Happens for a Reason

Hi Beautiful People,

The journey continues and as to be expected unforseen events have been happening in my life.
FYI - I'm not a fan of change and I'm use to things running smoothly. But as we all know everything happens for a reason.

As you should know, approximately a month ago I received good news that my work hours will be  changing and I am pursuing a less stressful position. My release date was scheduled for Nov. 2nd. Unfortunately, I am leaving a great group of co-workers but I must go out with a bang! So of course, I had to celebrate my departure.

But of course I find out on what I though was my "last day" that I'm not leaving and I am being held at my current job for 2 more weeks, REALLY!! These people want me to despise them. Every time I try to make moves "the man" is always trying to hold  me back! Damn!

Well the Party Must Go On (we will just have to celebrate my departure again in 2 weeks, lmao)

Friday Evening - Destination: Seven 7 Restaraunt Bar and Lounge in Downtown LA. Shout out to my twin sis for finding the spot for me :) Happy Hour from 5pm to 8pm! Great venue. The only downfall was the D.J. didn't start until 8pm (world series was on tv). But we were going to make it fun anyway. Cool spot to host your event at. Some random people came by but me and my people took over the joint! Great appetizers for $4 and "four" purple moon drinks later I was good and tipsy! I had a great time.

Thank you for all of my friends/co-workers for coming out to Celebrate my departure I am truly going to miss the comraderie in our office as I think we have the best Social Workers in LA County ;) Smooches

My only love connection right now is with my puppy Bailey!

My Stylist Tanya with Bailey!

If  a sista gets a date anytime soon I will definitley let you know. So the Adventures of Single n Fabulous continue...Smooches

Patience is a Virtue

Hi Beautiful People,

The time has come where change is inevitable…my persistence has paid off. I am going to a new position at work and with change there is sacrifice. Although I will be working nights now, I get 3 day weekends. I will be able to go to the gym, pre-cook my food and focus on getting my clinical licensing hours. Also, I can meet new people in the daytime rather than limit myself to meeting them at night. I’m actually looking forward to this change as I think this change will afford me some flexibility with my schedule and hopefully lead to less stress. So the career change looks good.

Let’s transition over to my social life…

Okay so one of my girlfriends invited me out to the Conga room last Sunday night. Hey I didn’t have any plans, so what the hell. I like the Conga room on Monday nights because of the “Live music” as this is Foxxhole night, so I thought I would give it a shot. It was pretty packed and had a pretty good turnout of supporters that night. Sadly, I did not observe any “potentials” upon my arrival. Let me clarify and give you my definition of what a “potential” is…a man you can spot out of a crowd who has his own swag, dressed nice from head to toe, crisp and clean, nice smile, not intimidated but confident in himself…and of course handsome. You know him when you see him because your eyes constantly stray back to him even within a room full of people. Now I don’t think I’m asking for much, because I know these men exist and I’ve met them in the past. Unfortunately, nothing came of these previous encounters and of course I’m still searching for “the one”. However, apparently this wasn’t my lucky night.  But I was appreciative of the men asking the ladies to dance hence I had a great time sweating my hair out ;). I met a nice guy from Chicago who told me his wife was out of town and he was out with the guys having a good time. Somehow I ended up talking to him about his marriage and recommending he and his wife seek counseling (this would happen to me). What’s his response “how can we keep in touch?” My response was “We Can’t”. I told him straight out that I am not friends with married men.Period. I explained to him that this is a “suspect” position to be in especially if I wasn’t a friend of his that met his wife prior to their marriage. I walked away from that situation quickly. Why me, LOL. Well I guess that event was something to do on a Sunday night with no work on Monday!

Transition over to Monday’s surprise…

I have a new “puppy” that I was not prepared for. I knew I wanted a dog but I did not do my usual research on what it takes to care for a puppy. I don’t know what my motivation for getting a dog…was I just set on getting my way…because the price was a good deal…am I going through a midlife crises…is this my way of substituting for not being in a committed relationship or having a child…I don’t know what the answer is but I do know that I love my Bailey! She is the cutest puppy and I am sacrificing some “good sleep” to make sure she gets what she needs. I also have the best supportive family in the world because they have pitched in to help although they did not sign up or this!! So now I am responsible for someone other than myself. I’ve made a commitment of my own. Let’s see how this works out and prepares me for my future. Thank goodness my mom is more than willing to babysit because mama still has to find Bailey a good daddy J.

Bailey's 1st Day Home

I will keep you posted on my usual Single and Fabulous Adventures…Smooches

Frustrated...

Hi Beautiful People,

Stress has gotten the best of me and has affected my ability to provide this Blog to my peers with consistency and I apologize for that. However I believe "I see a light at the end of the tunnel" (some form of relief). Please allow me to explain:

I've been frustrated recently due to several things in my life not going the way I want them to! Don't get me wrong, I know life has it's ups and downs but sometimes I wonder what is "my purpose"? I love my career in Social Work but I also believe that I have to be happy in my career choice. Therefore I have come to the realization that change is necessary.

Like anyone else, I have my own personal goals I would like to achieve and because of this unpredictable work schedule of mines I can't commit to what I want to do -one of them would be Dating!

For example, two Friday's ago I RSVPd to go to Buffalo Wild Wings in LA to participate in Mingle and Plei's Speed Dating event. I was having a great day at work when around 3:30p I get an Emergency investigation that has me working until 11:00p at night. Really? I've been at work since 8am...by this time I'm "exhausted". Sidebar - "exhausted" was the designated word I used for the month of September! Needless to say I went home and drank a glass of wine, alone.

Let's review what other personal goals I haven't been able to commit to fully: exercising consistently, eating healthy, cooking daily and of course dating. This is just sad. How am I going to be able to commit to a relationship if I can't commit to my own personal goals.

Looks like some major changes are going to have to happen. I've come to the conclusion that my job is dictating my life and this is not what I signed up for ;) The good news is, I have some things in the works and now I must put "ME" first. I know that I must be patient so I will take one day at a time.

I definitely have to keep you posted on what is soon to come! If you have any suggestions on how I can accomplish some of my personal goals with a "tricky schedule" feel free to share them with me! Much appreciated.

The Adventures continue....hopefully some excitement will happen in my life that I can share with you soon ;) Smooches